AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
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AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!
| Thu, 10-16-2003 - 4:12pm |
Help me!!!!! I just got an email from this guy's girlfriend but I'm not even doing anything with him. Yes, I'm attracted to him and he to me but we've never touched, ever. Last night was the first time that we even discussed (via msn messenger) that we were attracted to each other. Anyway, we've been emailing each other for awhile and I assumed that his email was his email because he never told me any different. So this morning, I emailed him and told him to double check that our conversation wasn't logged on his computer somewhere so that his g-friend wouldn't find it. Well, looks like she found that email. She wrote to me saying that it's not the first time, blah, blah, blah, and that she's done with him.
Help!!! What do I do?? Do I respond? I don't know!!!! I'm so worried that she's going to call here and then I'll have to deal with my husband.
Please, please, help!!!

don't reply at all to gf, OM. in fact, block them if you can. and besides, what are you going to say -- "hi, just chatting with your bf, it's really nothing." just let it go. his gf has enough on her hands without trying to butt into your life and "tell" your H.
in case anything gets back to H, deny it all. it was just conversation, nothing more!
and next time you correspond with someone, make sure nothing "incriminating" gets into writing. ask questions, like who has access to this account or cellphone, or whatever.
be careful in the future.
gurl
I just emailed her back because I feel so horrible. I am not trying to break anybody up and this wasn't the way it was supposed to go. I apologized to her and tried to explain to her that she was reading the email way out of context. I told her that he's never been unfaithful to her with me and that I'm not chasing him and he's not chasing me. We're friends and I like to talk to him. I asked her not to judge him based on one email and to reconsider before throwing away 3.5 years of a relationship.
I don't know what to expect. I don't think that she'll call here. She doesn't know me and doesn't have my last name (I hope!!). I just so wasn't prepared for this!! I would have been more ready to handle this if I had actually done something wrong! Oh well...you guys warned me there would be ups and downs....I just didn't think they would happen before the A actually started!
Thanks for your input!
And FWIW, at least with the latest version of MSN Messenger, users have the option of not recording *any* chat history. Just uncheck the box ;-)
ItalianPisces
Thank you again for having this board and this place to come to!!! It is a welcome place of release!!!
hugs
nsw