All good things must come to an end...

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Registered: 08-04-2011
All good things must come to an end...
Wed, 01-01-2014 - 6:24pm

Hey everyone, I haven't posted in a very long time. Quick summary I started my A around 3.5 years ago. It was supposed to be sex only but we quickly fell in love with each other and it became a lot more than sex. It had its ups and downs and I guess that is always the case when you have such "highs" in a relationship the "lows" will be there too.

There were many times during the 3.5 years were we had to "take a break" but rarely did those times last more than a week or two. It was always her that called things off, it would hurt but hurt a little less each time just because I think I knew in the back of my mind she'd be back. A lot of these "breaks" came when things were getting too good for us and it was causing her frustration that we couldn't be togther full time ( I had the same frustrations but was willing to live with the stress in order to keep her in my life )

Back in October she had a lot of things going on in her life, kids, finances and her verbally abusive husband so she called it off again...said she needed time to just get things figured out in her life, I knew she was in a dark place. We talked every once in awhile during that time but it was a far cry from our daily conversations.

A few weeks ago she tells me she moved out and took the kids with her.....then she drops the bomb that she is "moving on" and has met someone. Ouch!! Turns out it some guy that lives in Europe that she started talking to online via some game. So she hasn't actually met him but he is divorcing his wife as well. It feels crappy to get dumped for someone she's never even met but I'm guessing its the fantasy of him that is helping keep her going during the break up with her husband...our relationship was too real and she knew I am not in a position to leave my family.

I want to be happy for her, I know she still has a rough road ahead of her ( her husband is not happy about her leaving and I doubt he'll give her a divorce with out a nasty fight ) but its just hard to when I feel like I was tossed aside for some stranger. I'm sure part of my brain was thinking she'd come back like always but now she has this other guy to keep her attention.

Just venting, don't really have a point. I still love her but I keep trying to paint the picture in my mind that this is what is best while trying not to think negativily about her. I only want what is best ( I keep telling myself that ) for her so that she is happy.

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Registered: 01-01-2014
Wed, 01-01-2014 - 6:46pm

Life is like that. However, it has many positive sides :).