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| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 5:35pm |
I also told him that i was disappointed the day he told me on the phone he was going away with the family for two weeks instead of staying here like he thought he would, I wasn't mad about it (its for business so thats ok but doesn't make it easier).
Well he didn't respond and I called the next day for other reasons (really i did) and he SAID he was about to call me ..he WANTED me. we didnt' discuss the email. But I talked to him today too and wanted to be with him, but he is too busy ... again. I couldn't on Tues because I was at the office (for a change) working. ANYWAY, we still haven't talked about it at all and he hasn't emailed back with his thoughts. I didn't say anything either way to respond or not, but I would have responded by email to him. Why do you guys think he wouldn't respond? We had a nice coversation today sexy and otherwise, but as long as we were on the phone he didnt' mention it! I don't get it.
Anyone thoughts on this? I know some of you have done this ... how long did it take for him to mention it?
dd

What he told me was that he takes much longer to process things like that than I do. He felt more comfortable mulling it around in his head until he figured out how he felt and what he wanted to do. He is one I am learning NOT to rush...he tends to shut down when pressed for conversations that he isn't ready for. He does talk when he is ready. Women tend to process these things much more quickly I think, and it is hard for us to understand why our men don't. Not a blanket statement, but I think often true.
I guess if I were you I would give it a few days. You will feel when the time is right to bring it up. My guess is that he will find a way to respond in time. If things don't change in the next few weeks and you don't get together, then I would email him and ask how he is feeling about what you said. Nine times out of ten if I let things take their own course and don't force the issue, I find I was unecessarily worked up...just me over analyzing and obsessing.
Not sure if all of this made sense, but I hope things turn around soon!
Billie
yeah I won't say anything about it. We haven't been face to face yet, so maybe when we are together he might. Last time we were together I started talking about business (yeah i know , i said we wouldn't talk business with our clothes off LOL) and he said he didn't come there to talk business. Not sure if he wanted to talk and couldn't or not, we just kept looking at each other in the eyes and stroking each others hair and face. But we didnt' talk a lot that time either. I have a tough time figuring him out.
thanks I will take it slow and not press
dd
Just because he doesn't comment doesn't mean it didn't sink in. :)
Yeah it was like no response at ALL then the phone call (he still insists he was just ABOUT to call me when I called). I guess I am anxious to be alone with him again, not for just the obvious reasons, but because I am hoping we can talk - about the email and other things. I guess I feel totally out of control when it comes to him. I remember that being one of the reasons I married my H, I felt more in control because of the fact that I percieved him as loving me more than I loved him, not a great chance of being hurt there. So now with mm I feel so drawn to him that I guess I want him to treat me the way I treat him. But he isn't ME. So I have to come to understand that and accept it.
sigh way too much drama in my life right now
dd
Not sure if he is testing the waters here or not with how much he wants to know about my cancer or if he maybe really cares and this is the round about way to find out????