For all the S women w/ MM

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Registered: 09-17-2003
For all the S women w/ MM
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Thu, 10-30-2003 - 2:47pm
I just wanted to post this for all the single women out there with married boyfriends. I just spent two years w/ a MM who legally adopted my baby girl, promised me a future, looked at houses, rings, had family outings w/ me and my family AND ABOVE ALL PROMISED ME HE WOULD LEAVE HIS MARRIAGE. He had his house/property up for sale and he told me that on the closing date (Oct. 20) he would get his money (what he thought was his share of it) and move in with me ON THAT DAY. Well, Oct. 20th came and I got a message from him saying that everything went fine at the closing, he got his money and he opened up a new checking account with his money. He told me he had an appointment and he would call me right after the appointment. When I got home from work expecting to see him there, he left a message on my VM saying that he had been picked up by the Immigration Naturalization Services (he had a green card from Canada). He asked me to go pick up his car (with his "new account" information in it) and he said he would call when he got a chance. I left immediatley to go get his car and guess what?? NO CAR. It wasn't there. Over the next three days, I got a message from him every morning telling me that the checks from his new account were being mailed to my house and if I needed to go pay a bill, or needed money, to forge his name. In the meantime, I had a friend of mine who happens to be the Chief of Special Operations look into it and there was NO RECORD OF HIM BEING PICKED UP ANYWHERE. Turns out that "appointment" he had was non-existent. He NEVER HAD AN APPOINTMENT. And the checks??? They never came in the mail. Evidentally, he sold his house and moved away with his wife and kids.


I haven't heard from him in about two weeks. I'm ok though, I truly believe he did me favor by leaving altogether. I now have no worries about him and what he is doing with his wife or if he is lying or if he is going to leave her. Of course I still feel in disbelief over the fact that he could just leave and never look back, but I'll get over it. I just have the mess of getting him off of my daughter's birth certificate. But I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

What I'm trying to say is, if you are in a relationship w/ a MM and you're fine with him being married and you don't expect him to leave his W-- fine. But if you are a single woman with a MM, and you REALLY think he is going to leave his marriage, THINK AGAIN. It may happen, but honestly, I've never heard of it. I really SWORE up and down that my boyfriend was LEAVING. He was such a good liar. I wish the best of luck to you and if I could do it all over again, I would've gotten out when it started to hurt. But instead, I believed him like an idiot. I'm just glad it's all over. Above all, I'm really mad at myself. I'm mad at myself for not making a better decision for my children.




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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 3:18pm
I am so sorry that JERK duped you. I feel your pain. lots of love and hugs to you darling.

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 3:42pm
Don't be mad at yourself because he used you. HE deserves that anger. You are very strong to be able to post what you just did.

I'm so very sorry. Hugs,

Kari

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 10-30-2003 - 6:20pm
Hugs sweetie. Isn't is sad that there are jerks out there that advantage of you in every single way possible? I bet you are feeling like a fool and blaming yourself for trusting this man. Please don't be harsh on yourself, its not all your fault. You just trusted him to make good of his promises. Please take care of yourself in the day ahead and vent/cry all you want. Don't dwell on it too much - I know easier said than done. My heart goes out for you, you will be in my thoughts. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}