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? for All-Visible signs of Problem in M
| Sat, 03-27-2004 - 11:43am |
Hey Board- Here's my question. How can you tell (w/o asking) what is not working or wrong in a person's M? My MM has a sweet, pretty wife, great kids,etc. However, he has great interest in me as well. We are slowly building something and have met a few times at discreet places. Nothing intimate yet, just kissing. When I see him and W together I try and figure out why he is straying. I just don't get it. Is it because they were so young ( he 20 and she 21) when they had their first child and got married three yrs later? He's 34 now. Am I just a nice distraction for him? (And he for me. I am M as well.)
I try to see watch their actions with one another and body language. You know, do they touch, smile at each other, squabble, carry on conversation, act like a couple, etc. Again, any hints on how you can tell when things are not what they seem to be at home?

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I read your previous post and all the follow-ups.. I am in an eerily similar situation and wonder what has progressed since your Feb. postings.. Did you meet up with him on March 7 as planned? You say you have kissed -- I read before when it was in the 'early stages' and just wondering how that progressed...
Sorry to pry, however, I am struggling to understand the feelings I, too, am having. I a MW and he a MM, and have shared an (at times) very intense, email/phone relationship with this colleague who lives 3,000 miles away, for nearly 4 years. Now that we work for different companies, it hasn't changed the friendship/relationship. He is visiting home (in my area) next week and called me to see if I wanted to "meet for lunch or a drink".
Like you, I am always wondering and thinking -- is he really interested in me? He has male friends in the area, why didn't he call them? Was it all in my head when he was looking at me, as if he was attracted to me? My boss noticed it, so it must be true. I stroke his ego and he must like that.
I feel like just blurting everything out in the open when we meet next week - and yes, I am meeting him. I am happy in my marriage, but the relationship I have with M is different...
I am eager to hear how things turned out, V. I'm in the same boat and am starting to feel like banging my head against the wall!
R