All of you should read this!!!!

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Registered: 05-18-2004
All of you should read this!!!!
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 6:34pm
Why Men Love Bitches by S. Argove was a lifesaver for me! Read this more than once and you will have your man (or men) falling all over you. For many years I was constantly the good girl cooking, gift-giving,etc. for my boyfriends and then would wonder why they would leave...this also helped tremendously in my R with my fiance and my EMA...Please let me know when you read it.
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Registered: 11-07-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 7:35pm
Are you trying recruit bitches by training in your camp.. LOl :P

Sorry, I am not reading your book. I am not a bitch and very proud of it. I have two men who love me for that - unconditionally. Can you claim that??? I didn't think so. It doesn't get better than that, jagcass. But wait a minute, it might get better than what I have now, you never know. Never under estimate the future. :-)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 10:08pm
"Bitch" is just a shock word to get your attention to buy this book. "Bitch" in this book translates to "a strong, confident, whole woman, someone who commands respect and can still be sweet and agreeable." I heartily recommend this book to ALL women regardless of relationship status or lack thereof. It is a wonderful book that WORKS to make you a better woman all around, and in the process you become more attractive to all people. Don't be put off by the title. My BF read it and agreed with most of it.
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Registered: 11-07-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 10:20pm
I know bitch is not a bad word by itself unless to mean it to be. :) Its all in the semantics.

From her post, it seemed the bitch in the book means wanting a controlling realtionship with very little feeling involved so that you keep your heart intact. I didn't think she meant confidence in her post. Its OK to be confident but let not forget that respect and love for your SO are defining features in that realtionship. Let it not make you the aggressor in the R.

Anyway, I don't think I need it. I may get hurt in my life but i don't want to be living without any love or true emotions at all. JMHO

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 11:30am
I took your advice and went out the same day to buy the book. I read most of it in one night! It is a wonderful, fun and funny book and described me, the doormat, exactly.

I realized that I have been going at this ALL wrong, being an open book of emotions, coming across as needy, the do-it-all at home, going out of my way for my MM and the mommy figure for everyone and never feeling fulfilled!! With this book, I learned that the satisfaction I need must come from my own independent life and what I make of it...I am the Prize!! ;-)

I just want to thank you for sharing the info! I feel full of hope and it has given me back confidence and strength to try to regain control of my life!!!!

My husband will be back on Saturday from his 11 day business trip. He didn't call me all day yesterday but I didn't call him either. This morning he called my cell and then my work and I was conveniently unavailable. I don't know if it is too late to change the course of either relationship but no matter what happens, in the end, I know it will be for the best... for My happiness!!

We'll see how he and my MM react to the new mental challenge!! :-) Thanks again!!!