Cubbie it is normal that you feel guilty if you are still emotionally attached to your H, but why go for the A if you are not sure? I have posted an item - affair not going anywhere- i vented out what i've been going thru and perhaps expecting more pain to come. Cubbie, it is better to ask yourself first if it is worth with what you have now? are you willing to loose everything, in case you're discovered? there will be a lot of pleasure and happiness if both of you are in love and ultimately planning to be together in the future. but there will be more pain and suffering before you get there? Lastly, if you are serious, is he willing to move heaven and earth to get you ? Better know both yourselves and what are you willing to do before dive in the pool. gl
I am single, he is the one that is married. I left my husband three years ago and our D was final in March of last year. I thne got inot a serious R that ended very badly with him trying to kill himself. Before he did that we were talking M. My Ap said that is what made him confess, that I could get M again and we would never have a chance. He told me he needed 6 months to get things together to start the process. I know a D day would affect me but not near as much as him. We are in different states. He is a very serious person and is very serious about his feelings for me. But I still feel bad for his W. But after all I have been through I feel like I deserve the chance to find out if this is the person I should be with. Make any sense? A's are a mess no matter what.
it is normal that you feel guilty if you are still emotionally attached to your H, but why go for the A if you are not sure?
I have posted an item - affair not going anywhere-
i vented out what i've been going thru and perhaps expecting more pain to come.
Cubbie, it is better to ask yourself first if it is worth with what you have now? are you willing to loose everything, in case you're discovered? there will be a lot of pleasure and happiness if both of you are in love and ultimately planning to be together in the future.
but there will be more pain and suffering before you get there?
Lastly, if you are serious, is he willing to move heaven and earth to get you ?
Better know both yourselves and what are you willing to do before dive in the pool.
gl