Am I Alone?
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Am I Alone?
| Sat, 04-03-2004 - 8:50pm |
Why can't my H make me feel like a woman? I can't count the times I just needed my H to make me feel like a woman. For him to take the lead. For him to kiss me passionately. For him to hold my face ... to hold me. He is such a damn wimp. He just doesn't get it. For my 17 years of marriage, he just doesn't get it. I knew before I got married that he wasn't the one. But I was afraid the I wouldn't find anybody else and my H is safe. He would never leave me. Am I alone?
My H has problems with alcohol and pain killers. He is not strong emotionally. Am I alone?
My A has lasted 9 years. Without it, I would not remain married. With two daughters (15 and 11), I don't feel I should leave. But if I remain with my H, I feel like I must have the passion my A gives me. I feel alive with my MM. The passion. The kissing. Am I alone?
I am 40 years old. I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without passion. The only way is with an A. Am I alone?

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I feel just like you do. Read my post (right below yours). One of the reasons I prefer my affair partner is because he makes me feel like a woman. I told my husband this, and now he ACTS the exact way I want a man to. But, I know it is an ACT. With my ex-fiance, it is natural, we know EXACTLY what to do together in bed. It is NATURAL, no work involved. So I feel your pain. I am 41. What are we supposed to do, play dead old woman for the next 40-50 years. No ******* way!!!!
I can't leave, we have 2 kids. I can't do that to the kids.
"I knew before I got married that he wasn't the one. But I was afraid the I wouldn't find anybody else and my H is safe. He would never leave me. Am I alone?"
"I am 40 years old. I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without passion. The only way is with an A. Am I alone?"
NO- you are not alone. It was like looking in the mirror when I read your post. I am also 40, no passion in marriage and the MM that I was hoping to have an A wiht (long story- read my posts if you want to know it) gave me that same thrill. And although we never comsumated our R (if that's what it can be called) he still made me feel like a school girl with a crush yet a woman with desire. I had not felt that way in years.
I am so sad with my situation but am grieving my way through it... I so want you to know that you are NOT alone. I only wish I had my MM to give me what yours does for you to make life livable. I am so lonely and empty inside.
Let me know how you are .... you can email at ves@email.com if you want. We can help each other through the lows and celebrate the highs?!
My OM makes me feel alive in a way I never knew even at the start of my M. This is not just sexually, its in every way. I know its wrong, but the way it makes me feel makes it so right. I'm only 32, why should I settle for being alone within my M? I'm terrified of what would happen if my H should ever find out, but I will not stop my A, I deserve some happiness.
My A is also giving me so much confidence in myself, and I have now started to stand up to my H and try and change things I am not happy with in the M. If I can feel like this at the start of my A, what will I be like in a years time? My A is so right, I don't know what I would do without it.
Suicide Watch!! What does that mean, exactly?? I'm worried. Is it you or him? Please let us know what is happening here.
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