Am I Being Played by AP ????

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Am I Being Played by AP ????
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Sat, 06-06-2009 - 5:02pm

 

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Sat, 06-06-2009 - 5:22pm

Give him space.

Don't call him. Let him wonder what YOU might be doing for a change. I wouldn't even take his calls all the time. Sometimes we're BUSY. That always makes us more interesting.

It makes us even MORE interesting if it's not "put on". In other words, don't sit home and obsess about what he's thinking/feeling. Shrug your shoulders... go ahead, I mean it, SHRUG, I can see you! While you're doing that say "Oh well, he'll come around, what would I like to do tonight/tomorrow"... And find interesting and fun things to do. DON'T bring your cell phone!!

I already told you in a previous post that you deserve more than someone you've been involved with for years who has broken up with you from time to time, leaving you to dread the "next time", and who is married when you're single. But I can see you're not ready to let go of him. So instead, try to make the "rest" of your life - the part without him - interesting and fun, so that you're not left so empty and hollow when he's not around.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Registered: 03-28-2006
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 10:41am

Lexi,


Thanks again for the advice.

 

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Registered: 05-21-2009
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 2:35pm
IMNSO I think you should just leave him alone. Calling him and asking again and again if it's because of something that you did is just going to make you look neurotic and needy!
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Mon, 06-08-2009 - 7:27am
Why did you delete your message to me?

 

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 10:09am

I'm glad I made you feel (a little bit) better and got you to laugh. :-) Keep shrugging!

I think the deleted posts were deleted by an adm. although I'm not sure. If they were, then you're better off not seeing them.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Mon, 06-08-2009 - 7:37pm
you will be fine..give him some space seriously...he'll be back...and being a customer service rep and a single mom has nothing to do with it...hello i'm a single mom and did what you did for a living years ago until i got a new position with the same company..nothing wrong with it..you earn an honest living and you bust your chops for your kid(s)...i think people value honest hard earners and down to earth folks more....you feel me...uhmm my whatchamacallit earns a good living and has provided a nice life for his family as well..that means nothing compared to the feelings he has for me..you get me..and if you wanna call im and ask him by all means do so...you know why..because if he honestly loves you..you seeming neurotic and needy wont phase him a bit...seriously....i hope you find some sort of ease for your mind through this..take your time and try to do things that please you and that you enjoy because once you jump back on the rollercoaster ride, as i'm sure you've read on these boards, you better hold on tighter because the ride doesn't get any smoother....

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Fri, 06-12-2009 - 2:00pm

This is coming from me the cheater.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”