Am I being too selfish?
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Am I being too selfish?
| Fri, 01-02-2004 - 10:18am |
Hi, everyone! I'm so glad I found this board! I started having an affair with a former co-worker two months ago. We have seen each other every day since then and talk on the phone for about two hours per day. We have SO MUCH in common it's scary! Anyway, I quickly developed deep feelings for this man, i.e., love, and we are now talking about moving in together and getting married. I'm currently married for 13 years with two children. Am I selfish to want to be with this man? My marriage has not been good for about 5 yrs or so...no affection, takes me for granted, etc. The OM treats me like a queen and I believe him when he says it will continue...I have thought about leaving my husband before (with no OM involved) because I just get so sick of the crap. He's not abusive by any means, just ignores me and the kids. My OM says I need to take care of myself and do what will make me happy, but is he a just a little biased because he will come out ahead if I do? I'm confused about it all. I'm worried about my girls and how divorce will effect them, yet they see their father and me hardly interact at all. I had told my husband at different points over the last few yrs that he would actually spend more time with them if we were divorced! Your advice is greatly appreciated! Thanks!

Edited 1/2/2004 10:58:45 AM ET by julietsfate