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Am i a fool?
| Fri, 06-12-2009 - 8:42pm |
Hi everyone,
I'm new here, having just found this site not too long ago.
| Fri, 06-12-2009 - 8:42pm |
Hi everyone,
I'm new here, having just found this site not too long ago.
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My first A was much like the one you're currently in. I did it ALL - I made ALL contact first, I set up dates for us, I was the one doing all the driving just to spend an hour with him, I did it ALL. One day, the light bulb turned on and I realized that *I* wasn't getting much out of the A. Sure, there was the physical satisfaction, but the emotional side wasn't there as much. I felt like *I* was doing all the work and he was just along for the ride. I confronted him about it and we split not long afterward.
My current AP lives in a different state and is always offering to drop everything to be with me. He is the one who texts me first thing in the morning and at the beginning of things - he was also the one who always called. I soon realized I was doing to him what had been done to me and stopped doing that. He knows I love to wake up to a text from him and will get up early (even on Sundays!) to insure he is the first one to text. I call him as often as he calls me now.
A true relationship is a two way street. Both have to give.
As for him lying about how is M is... I'm sorry,
Thanks Wheretogo09...you're so right.
Please don't knock yourself out.
HI Brokenheatd
I agree with yammtc. He is most likely just out for sex and is a player. If you wanted to proceed with him you need to find out more about him and his marriage. It does not sound like it is all that bad, just that he is not getting his needs met and looks for someone ( you ) to fulfill when he needs it.
You are doing all the work,l
Don't you hate how much power we are giving these men ?
if its not what you are looking for,then find a guy who would suite your needs better.
Hon, men are not as emotional as women and do not need to be in love to have sex, nor do they have to be in bad marriages in order to feel like King Stud screwing two women. It's all ego. If MM were honest, there would be no need for sites like this. However, they know what women want to hear, and know exactly what so say to keep them on the line and catering to them.
Hey Wordmaster007
ALL men are not has you have described. While we are able to have sex without love does not mean that we do. It appears that there are also a lot of women who are doing the same thing. What you say about MM not having to be in a bad marriage in order to feel like King Stud is not true for many of us. Although, yes there are guys like that out there and it appear like broknheartd is involved with one. Some MM ( like myself ) find themselves in this sitiuation due to unhappy, failed marriages, that we should and need to get out of, but do to many different reasons and conditions have not ( at this time ) For me I have finally have gotten to a point where a D is going to happen for me, regardless of having a affair or not.
Broknheartd I reread your initial post and I am even more convinced that this guy is someone who you will regret in the future. He has already lied to you
The question is why do you give your AP this much power?
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