Am I handling this the right way?

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Am I handling this the right way?
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Sat, 01-10-2009 - 5:41pm

A little background.

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Registered: 08-08-2005
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 7:39pm

shoulda,

for what it's worth, it sounds like you are taking the most caring path towards him - which is giving him space and letting him know you are willing to continue as friends. i don't know how you DO that (and i'm interested to hear if someone CAN do it since that is what i expect my ending to be) and i don't know how you grieve for your relationship,

we're here to listen,
Mrs.




Edited 1/10/2009 7:39 pm ET by mrs.smithandjones
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Sat, 01-10-2009 - 8:14pm
Thanks.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 8:26pm
Hi mrs. I saw this thread and wanted to make a comment about the friends statement. I honestly believe that being in an affair and when the affair is over if both people want to, you can be friends. My x ap and i have remained close friends. We still talk once a week through email and phone.we talk about problems we are having, life, jobs, cooking, everything. It can work if you want it to. I cant amagine never having him in my life.
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Registered: 12-19-2008
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 8:45pm

Exactly.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 8:57pm
Imho a friendship is worth so much more then any physical relationship.
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Registered: 12-19-2008
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 9:01pm
You're right.
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Registered: 08-08-2005
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 9:07pm

what is Sting's lyric? if you love someone, set them free.

Mrs.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 9:15pm
The game of love of the heart is so painful.
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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sun, 01-11-2009 - 12:30am

Hi Shoulda -


Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and hoping that you are doing ok after your meeting with AP this evening.


Come let us know how you are - and lean on us as much as you need to. We are here - and we care.

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 12-19-2008
Sun, 01-11-2009 - 1:09am

Wow, it went completely different.

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