Am I handling A wrong?
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Am I handling A wrong?
| Fri, 07-23-2010 - 8:58am |
I've posted here a time or two, been in an A for 2 and a half months, I am MW in mid-40's he is MM mid-40's.
| Fri, 07-23-2010 - 8:58am |
I've posted here a time or two, been in an A for 2 and a half months, I am MW in mid-40's he is MM mid-40's.
IMHO, he's just being a typical guy.
Hi Oldtimer, thanks for the response, I totally agree with much of what you said.
I think you handled it perfectly.
About 4 years ago I met a MM and we decided to have a relationship.
Thanks for the response Janejosie, been lurking here for awhile now and you always seem to have a good handle on things.
I think you did really well telling him what you need to be happier in the A, but then every time you backpedaled and said something like "but if that's not what you want, it's OK, it has a shelf life anyway". At least that's what I took you to mean when you said this:
"...then we continue and all of the intracacies will be worked out. I responded that and if they aren't that's ok too because this this does have a shelf life ."
Stick to your guns about what you need. An A is for fun, for friendship, and to add something to your life. If, instead, it makes you feel bad or used, then it isn't worth it, right? It sounds like he'll be reasonable and will try to please you, but don't let him treat you bad and think "well, it's just an A, it will expire anyway".
Anyway it's great that you spoke up! Be proud of yourself for that.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Thank you Clex, you are SO right, yes I backpeddled a lot and I do have a tendency to do that and I believe it is because of my insecurity combined with my fear of losing this A.