Am I the only one who does this?
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Am I the only one who does this?
| Wed, 09-03-2003 - 1:46pm |
I've noticed that when I'm with OM and he asks me about problems in my M (we share just about everything with each other), I'll almost exaggerate them or act like I would rather be with him than H. Meanwhile, when I'm with H, I'm very lovey-dovey and act like he's the only one for me. It's almost like I'm double sided and I don't like that I lead each man on to believe a different thing. I don't know why I do this but now that I've realized that I do, it bothers me quite a lot. Does anyone else ever feel like they're doing this? What can be done?

Personally, I dont think it's good that you talk it down because you're not being true to your OM or true to yourself. Besides, the more you talk your marriage down the more likely you are to go home with a negative attitude about your marriage. I suggest you follow the golden rule that if you dont have anything nice to say, say nothing at all...
Liberal
Hugs,
Tinker
I do think you need to be true to yourself. It is only natural for us to put on our "pleasing" personalities around those we want to impress, but you need to be true to your feelings.
with OM. And then he took
that as meaning *he* could
bash my H. I have stoped, and
I think that may be one of the
reasons why OM and I seem to be
"broken up".. Argh, I just
stoped myself because hearing
OM bach my H, well it hurt..
Even though OM was telling the
truth... Argh. It's all hard.
Just try and stop yourself
from doing that... I don't know
what else to suggest. ~passion