Am I over analysing again?

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Am I over analysing again?
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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 1:51pm

Hi all,


Was on my way to work this morning and got a text from AP saying nice trousers and top, I was stood at the bus stop at the time and immediately started looking around for AP. Any way I text back how do you know what I am wearing

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Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:41pm
My two cents?

anotherseyes

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Registered: 08-30-2009
Wed, 07-28-2010 - 10:49pm
You called him AP. Is he AP or exAP? If he is exAP then this kind of flirting you 2 are engaging in is more than what friends do. If you are looking to get involved again that is the way to do it but if you are looking to remain friends your responses to him should've been different. I think you have to decide what you want from this new friendship and decide on your boundaries, or you might get hurt again.
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Registered: 03-26-2010
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 12:00am

You called him AP. Is he AP or exAP?


Nice catch, Layshka! LOL.

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 7:18am
I agree with Jane. You can't be friends with him. Not just friends. It's all or nothing, I fear. And you know what, that's usually the case. That really IS why they have a NC "policy" at EAS. If you're honestly ENDING an A, it's almost impossible to use the "just friends" route, you have to walk away properly.

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Registered: 06-01-2010
Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:02pm

Hi another,


I think that he does want the A to start again and if I am completely honest so do I. I have tried not to let this happen but this morning he met me at the bus stop and ended up giving me a kiss and a hug, and told me had missed me.


So looks like the A is back on again, I think I was kidding myself that we could be friends only. I am going back into this with my eyes wide open though and under no illusion that anything good is going to come from this. It is just so hard to fight it when you still have feelings for someone.


ali x

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:08pm

Hi layshka,


thanks for your reply, not sure wtether he was xap or ap but looks like the A is back on again.


I know that we are both finding it hard to be just friends so it is no suprise really. I never wanted to let him go but I am more cautious this time and I am totally aware that I may get hurt again.


ali x

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:19pm

Hi jane,


I think you can read me like a book LOL I was conscious when I wrote it that I had put AP and not XAP and maybe that should tell me that I can't just be friends with him.


We met this morning and he ended up kissing me and hugging me telling me that he has missed me. I have not pushed for anything more with him, and to be honest I actually feel more comfortable with him now than before. I am not obssessing over him as much and wondering if he will ring or text, or when I will see him. That in itself is a good sign as I know if it were to end again although I would be hurt I think I would cope better.


I think that we were both kidding ourselves that we could be friends and that this would lead us right back into the A. You all know on this board my feelings for him and I have never wanted to let him go , maybe in time I will get fed up of it just being an A and will move on but for now i'm not ready to let it go. Thanks for the honesty jane I needed to read that to make me realise that I needed to be honest with myself.


ali x

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Thu, 07-29-2010 - 2:26pm

Hi lexi,


I have lurked on EAS for a few weeks but never felt right posting on there becuase of the NC thing. I knew that I wouldn't be able to stick to NC.


I agree lexi that I can't just be friends with him not while I still have so many feelings for him. I thought because I had done this before with an ex that I could do it again, but last time i did it was after a