Am I wrong

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Am I wrong
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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 9:57pm
My affair left me wanting the satisfaction of a man.. My h won't touch me and it been this way for years.. That is part why I had an affair in the first place.
“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 01-16-2010
In reply to: galcurve
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 11:51pm

"I am just afraid if I start a new affair that my emotions will get in the way. Oh, God how I hate this.."

Yep, they will. You can count on it because you are a woman. As a woman, the minute you have sex, the need for connection goes into over drive. It's different for men though. Their need for connection happens before sex and dies down afterward.

I am sorry that find yourself in this position. Have you thought about counseling? I understand how you feel because I am over at EAS recovering from the effects of an A.

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Registered: 04-23-2007
In reply to: galcurve
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 9:03am
Why is your H not having S with you? Have you tried telling your H if he doesn't satisfy you you will get someone who will? That must be awful to be in a M like that. I feel for you. Your H needs to know how important SF is for you.
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Registered: 05-14-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 7:43pm
I have but nothing ! oh, well I guest it time for us
“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 11-14-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Wed, 01-20-2010 - 10:11pm

Gal~


I'm really sorry your going through this emotional rollercoaster with your H. I know exactly how you feel about your H not wanting to touch you are have anything to do with you. My exH was the same way and that's what started my affair over 2 years ago. I did get extremely attached and fell in love with my AP now BF. I did end up divorcing my husband after 2 d days.
Unfortunately for us women we tend to let our emotions get in the way during these A's.
Not that I encourage divorces by any means, but is that something you think would make you happier so you can focus on finding someone who will love you and full fill your sexual needs? It's hard to go into a PA without getting feelings of some sort.
I wish you luck and hope you can find happiness for yourself.

cntrygirl03
cntrygirl03
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Registered: 05-14-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Thu, 01-21-2010 - 2:13pm

Thank you for your kind words.. Since my affair last year we have spoken of D however, house, kids sometime get in the way.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”