Am I wrong to be hurt?

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Am I wrong to be hurt?
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Wed, 07-21-2010 - 10:44pm

I was spending a hour or so just sitting and spending alone time w/ AP.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 6:58am
That's kind of like asking "am I wrong to be hungry?" Feelings pretty much come on you because you're human. It's what we do about the feelings that can make us "right" or "wrong". No we probably don't have a "right" to be upset when our married AP has sex with his/her spouse, or texts "I love you" to them. But we can't help the jealousy or hurt we feel. It's part of the deal we signed on for when we decided to have an A - sharing is part of the deal. We will get upset, but we should learn to let it go.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 07-22-2010 - 2:54pm

Hi Lasvegasdiva,


Funny how I've asked myself that question numerous times and each time I say I have no right because he is not mine BUT lawd knows I have my jealous rages if I suspect he is with another woman. Feelings are involved where in the beginning there were none so it didn't bother us. Now of course I can't imagine him with anyone else because I'm greedy, selfish, a cake eater & want him ALL to myself. I admit it and it doesn't make it right.


Its like I want to own him, possess him and with AP telling me I'm the only one he wants makes it all the more that I want him with no one else. How many times have I wished that I had no feelings because then I wouldn't feel hurt. I want to be numb to all of it. But like Lexione said we are in an A and this is what we agreed to sign up for and it comes with the territory.


We're only human and I feel you...Hugs...

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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