anotherseyes - how r u?

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anotherseyes - how r u?
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Fri, 08-20-2010 - 11:29pm
Hi Another - on the board tonight and thinking we hadn't heard much from you in the last week or so?

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 2:34am

I'm just in a weird place right now!

anotherseyes

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 9:27am
hang in there, another :) (HUG) It will take time...one of the best things I learned while in T was that it takes FAR longer to work through all of this than we imagine. It seems like time stands still and we're going nowhere. Be patient and kind to yourself :)
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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 10:58am
Thank you kimber :)

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anotherseyes

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 12:30pm

That's a tough situation.

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 2:02pm

I actually thought H and I could rebuild, that we could make our marriage better than it ever was before.

anotherseyes

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 5:25pm

Oh another, I'm sorry that happened. I can hear the pain in your words :-(


How did you find out that he was seeing someone and that they spent the night together? Do you believe the source? I think perhaps he's trying to make you hurt, the way that he feels hurt by you....could that be the case?


Please don't do anything that you might regret later....if you think that you could have rebuilt your M, then fight for it! Go to your H and tell him everything you said here. Tell him that his being with this person has hurt you, and that you understand why he did it....but let's start with a clean slate and have the relationship we both want.


I do know how you're probably feeling. I would never admit this to anybody, but even though my ex-h and I have been apart for three years...and divorced since January, and

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 9:51pm

OMG AE- what happened???

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 10:28pm

H has been wooing me, courting me, saying how we could work things out, how our marriage could be better, stronger than it ever was.

anotherseyes

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Sun, 08-22-2010 - 10:57pm

AE - I am soooo sorry!

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Mon, 08-23-2010 - 3:59am

Justlivin said it very well- H has shown you exactly how much his words meant! I cant believe he did that. I mean I know we all have cheated, but I bet we didnt start it while at the same time telling our partners how important they are to us and how much we should start afresh!


AE I really think your decision is that much clearer now- what do you think??


Iggyxxx

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