An answer!

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An answer!
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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 7:34pm

Finally! An answer to my long burning question of whether he wants to continue 'us' after my contract finishes today.

So first to recap, I had part 1 of The Talk last week when an opportunity arose for me to mention that he was very hot and cold with me and it was hard for me to tell whether he wanted to keep seeing me or what he thought. He totally admitted to that. I said he had to figure it out because I was done next week.

So this week, my last week, was soooo different than the last month and a half. It was almost like how it was in the beginning. He actually texted me in the morning on my first day back this week, wanting to know when i'd be there cause because he wanted my company. My mouth literally dropped open when I flipped open my phone and saw that it was from him! Then that whole day he was so flirty with me and was kissing me really passionately every time he came into my office and it was so great! That was Tuesday. Then Wednesday, he had a horrible day because one of our residents (we work in mental health) hit him and he was really angry and shaken by it. So I comforted him about it and things were still really good between us and he texted me that night thanking me for being there for him. And he's gone back to calling me his pet names which he hadn't done much the last month and a half (only on hot days).

Then this morning, I was late to work and didn't see him until the afternoon and he texted me a couple times wondering where i was.

So finally, my insanely busy day was winding down and he caught me in my office. He chatted and then he said that he wanted to see me again and really soon, like in a couple weeks. He said he wanted to plan an overnight for us at a hotel, halfway between where we both live. And I was like ok so does this mean you want to still see me? And he said of course I do, I always did, I just had to work through some stuff. He could tell I wasn't totally convinced because he kept reassuring me. Then we kissed and fooled around in my office. After, we kissed goodbye and he left. But then he was back a couple minutes later while i was packing up and he kissed me again and said don't worry about anything, i'll see you soon okay? it'll happen.

And he was so energetic about planning an overnight. He wasn't that animated since he planned our first overnight, way back in March! And when he'd been feeling guilty, he was kinda saying that planning us to get together was hard when he initaly had been saying how it was really doable. Today though he was like yeah it's not hard, it'll just take some planning but we can totally do it. His whole attitude was just really positive. In fact, it's been positive since I called him on his hot and cold behaviour.

I wonder if me pointing this behaviour combined with imminent departure made him realize he didn't want to lose me and what we have? It's like I have my AP back, not this hot and cold guy who was going through some guilt and uncertainty and making me feel like absolute s**t.

So, I'm hoping things work out. Now all I can do is get back to my other life, and see if things happen the way I hope they will, and the way he seemed to as well today!

I have my fingers crossed.




Edited 6/10/2010 9:47 pm ET by lucyford99
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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 8:11pm
That's wonderful, lucy; you must be so relieved!

anotherseyes

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Fri, 06-11-2010 - 1:34am
Yay!