Any Advice

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Registered: 09-07-2008
Any Advice
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Mon, 09-08-2008 - 9:25pm
Well I am new at this message board thing. I think I figured out all the abb. So we will see. I have been M for 7 years. I have been having an A for about 3 of those 7. I never intended for things to be the way they are. But I woke up one morning and found myself loving my AP more then I thought. Kind of hits you right between the eyes. We have always lived in the same town until 2 1/2 months ago. My H took a job about an hour and 1/2 from where we lived. He was gone during the week and came home on the weekends. It was great because AP and got to see each other alot. Very spoiling. Then the time came where I had to move also. We never really said goodbye to each other because we didn't want things to end. Then he came up with an idea for me to go on a business trip with him. I got it pulled off and we went. It was great. It was a taste of normal life. Of doing normal things together. But then it was time for reality to set back in and we had to come home. Not sure when I will see him again. We email and chat when we can but it is really hard knowing we can't just meet when we have 30 min here or there. Its hard knowing it will probably be months at a time before we see each other. I am not sure if I just need to go ahead and end it all which I really don't want to do. Or just take what we can get and enjoy the time we do have when we get it. Anyone with any good advice for me? Anything would help.
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Registered: 09-07-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 10:59pm
Thanks that is good to know now...lol. Like I said I am new at the message boards here and just looking to read and post somethings like what I am going thru.
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Registered: 08-17-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 11:01pm

I don't really have any great advice. None of us really get to see our APs as much as we would like. I believe it's

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Registered: 09-07-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Mon, 09-08-2008 - 11:04pm
No neither of us is planning on leaving at this time. Because we both have too much invested in our M. We have talked about it before. He has told me he has thought about leaving even before we met. I have thought about it. But the reprecussions of leaving for both of us would be bad. Something we don't really want to deal with right now. I read that alot of us stay in the M to keep the peace. That is pretty much what I do. I stay to keep the peace.
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Registered: 09-29-2004
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 8:15am

Algirl,


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Registered: 03-01-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 8:40am

It's important to remember one thing.

 

 

 

 

 

******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again
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Registered: 08-17-2008
In reply to: algirl2008
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 10:08pm

You have said that you are not leaving your marriage. When you really break it down to just the basics there are only a few other outcomes:


First, I would like to say, if you continue the A there is a good chance that you will be caught eventually. I'm not wishing that on anyone but- as you can see from posts on this board- it happens.


Alright, outcomes...