Any advice.......

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Any advice.......
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Mon, 03-29-2004 - 1:54pm
I divorced my H in January and moved out. He NEVER knew about MM or suspected anything. He knew that the marriage was over also. MM and I never discussed leaving for eachother but we both wanted out of our marriages. Thought I was in the clear until this weekend. MM's daughter and my daughter are best friends. He dropped off a movie this weekend that his daughter had borrowed. It was due at the video store that day. He dropped it off and left. My son was home. My son went to his dad's house that night and tells dad that Mr. *&^% came over on his Harley. H calls me at 2:30 in the morning asking me if I had an affair with Mr. &^%$. I denied it but now what? What's going to happen down the road? I feel like MM and I will never be in the clear.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2004
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 4:06pm
I would continue to deny it. Admitting it now, even though you are divorced, could potentially cause problems with your and MM's children. I would just continue to deny any involvement with MM. H does not need to know, IMHO.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 4:39pm
deny, deny, deny
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2004
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 5:44pm
I have been in your exact situation! My ex found out after the divorce and he was abusive. Abusers never want to except their own part in anything! He immediately went to find the MM and beat him up right out infront of Burger King! I don't know wether your ex would do something as drastic but I do know that nothing stays hidden forever. Lies and secrets always boil to the surface. Even if it takes years!
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 6:24pm


He is not your husband anymore you should get out of the habit of answering his questions HE HAS NO RIGHT TO KNOW, it's your life not his.

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