Any "success" stories? Just curious.

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Any "success" stories? Just curious.
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Sat, 10-11-2008 - 11:40pm

Complete newbie here, and was just curious if there were any stories where the AP's (I'm assuming that stands for "Affair Partner") ended up together. I, of course, realize that not all - or even most - AP's start or continue a EMA with the intention of ending up together, but I was just curious if anyone has. And, if so, did your/their SO find out about the EMA, or did you/their AP end up

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Registered: 02-09-2008
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 12:50am

Hello and welcome to the board. Please tell us your story, you'll find a whole heap of very supportive people here to help you through the day to day of an A.

There is a post on the abbreviations in the "humor me" thread that I've bumped up to the top for you, but you've done just fine in your post so far :)

There are some success stories on this board where they've ended up with their AP's but they are very few and far between. They are the exception not the norm. I recently read in an article (no idea how accurate) that the figure is less than 3%. AP has told me he will not leave his W, so I am not one of them.

There is a thread from about a month ago about this topic - "Who does it work out for?" that you might like to read also.
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmyaffair&msg=54681.1&x=y

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 1:17am

Hi Msp -


Welcome to the board.

lightning in my heart

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Registered: 06-06-2008
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 5:21am

I met my AP at work. We were both married, and both left our spouses for each other. Due to retarded acts on my behalf he went back to his W. I found out a week later that I was pregnant by him, but to further complicate things AP had a vasectomy five years prior. Now he thinks I cheated on him, and is back w/ his W, and I am alone to cope w/ this mess. BUT good news prevails! Thank God for DNA! Now AP and I have been back together for a year, and he is in the process of moving out as we speak. Our son is now 6yrs old.

There are SOME happy stories, but from what I read there are many more horror stories.

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Registered: 10-10-2008
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 2:06pm

Hey thanks! The abbreviations post helped tremendously, and checked out the other link w/ the "success" stories. There was another link w/in that link that I checked out too.


I appreciate everyone's responses, and will definitely get back with my story later... I'm not so sure how everything will work out.

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Registered: 01-17-2008
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 2:46pm

I may be a success story.

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Registered: 06-06-2008
Mon, 10-20-2008 - 2:56am
Wow that's a great story! That gave me hope. Even though my AP is moving out now, I feel like theres this cannon between us. He told me he loves it when we see each other everyday, but he can't remain focused. We are both in Law Enforcement, and the atmosphere is not one that is conducive to fuzzy feelings, and I love yous. I know that he has had a lot on his mind, but I can't stand how things are. His W knows about me, and she is never been a problem between us. It's the damn job I can't compete w/. I don't know what will happen. I will keep everybody posted. Thanks for the story though.
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Registered: 01-17-2008
Mon, 10-20-2008 - 1:58pm

I know what you mean.