Anybody Religious?

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Registered: 01-19-2004
Anybody Religious?
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 11:19pm
Religion was one particular reason that stopped me from taking my emotional affair to any other level. I mean I could micro-analyze my marriage and come up with reasons to justify cheating to my own self but could not justify it to God. I am supposed to “guard my modesty” in relation to my husband and I couldn’t bring myself to break that decree. I and MM belong to different faiths but for him it was the religious reason too that held him back. I and MM could generate heat in excess of couple of hundred degrees ..lol.. but it’s the religion besides our idiosyncratic personalities that wouldn’t let us do it.

I am curious to know how other board members (who consider themselves actively religious) handle the religious aspect that considers adultery a serious sin. Do you feel like a sinner and think that other areas of your life might be getting affected by the adultery act (they say people get punished in this world too besides in the other world)? Do you feel that your prayers work?

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Registered: 04-08-2003
Sun, 03-14-2004 - 11:17am
Excellent point. I believe if I were put in that position my Christian beliefs would make me struggle with whether to go through with an A or not.

But in my mind, you don't have to go as far as sex to commit adultery...if you're emotionally involved with someone other than your husband, doesn't that cross the line? Just a thought...

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 7:00am
We've talked about adultery in our Sunday School class (our pastor leads our class) and he says that the actual "act" of sex is no different than just having lust in your heart for someone other than your spouse. So, when we look at an attractive member of the opposite sex in lust, it's committing adultery. And it's true that it is up to each individual as to whether or not they act on those feelings. I chose to act on those feelings, so if that makes me weak, then I am weak. But my A and the reason I'm leaving my H are two different things. The separation from my H began WAY before ever meeting my MM. I am not going to justify my actions to anyone. I just think every one of us have different situations we are dealing with and we aren't here to judge each other. I have no right to condemn or question anyone else's actions when I am not a pure person. None of us are pure people. We all sin. We all have faults. We all have to figure out what that means to each of us.

All of us lie, all of us have lust in our hearts....we are all sinners. Right now my prayers are with my children and myself for the strength to finish my divorce. I pray for strength every day. My relationship with God is private and extremely personal.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 7:25am
I've keep telling myself that God doesn't give me more than I can handle. I pray everyday for the strength to go through with my divorce as well. It is extremely difficult with somedays I just feel like giving up and staying for the kids sake. I think everyone's relationship with God is different and we each must make peace with him as we see fit. Stay strong with the divorce and believe in yourself and know that you are stong, smart and confident. Good Luck!
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Registered: 02-16-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:17am
Ficar....I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hon, I know what you are going through...we both have a lot to deal with now. (((HUGS)))
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:21am
You're in mine too!!

Thanks

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