Anyone else actually having fun?
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Anyone else actually having fun?
| Tue, 01-20-2009 - 10:48am |
So, I have been reading all the posts, and believe me, ladies (and men) I do feel your pain. I am new to this ride, but I can imagine that at times, it does get painful. But I'm just wondering.....is anyone else out there, whether in the early stages of an A, or in a long term A, having fun with their AP? I mean, forgive me if I sound callous, but.....isn't fun the whole point of an A?

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I have always enjoyed every second that I spend w/ AP. He is by far, the funniest person that I have ever met. I just completely loose time when I'm w/ him. It's so fulfilling that it seems like a dream sometimes......
How happy, or how much fun I have w/ AP was NEVER the issue. The problems come when he leaves and goes home to the W. That's were I'm having a hard time. I mean who would put up w/ all the bullsh*t if when you got to see your AP you didn't enjoy it?
Edited 11/6/2009 11:04 am ET by goblinqueen79
Happy? - Yes.
In Love? - Yes.
Working towards being together?
If defining fun is brief moments of incredible peace & happiness talking and being with someone that understands you and treats you better than anyone else ever has
you are welcome....one thing i vowed i wouldn't do or think, because i knew what i was getting myself into, was to beg my XAP to leave his wife for me..because i never want him to grow resentment for me or feel i am making demands or pushing him to do something...that was out of respect for him...i always knew he wouldn't leave her for me...the only thing i wanted was for him to make me feel special and treat me with dignity and respect and give me the time and attention i deserve..we knew it would be hard but i never thought it this hard..i felt like he could handle it all..my reactions to his empty promises, my reactions to him not being able to spend time with me like i want..but guess he can't..oh well...i sit today again very sad with a big knot in my stomach....but hopefully i'll be okay at some point..i'm just trying to weather the storm....not bother him or anything like that....
affairs aren't fun to me...i don't think that most of us on this board got into one for the fun of it..in my opinion they just happened...and once you are in it, it is hard to let go..whether you want to, have to or need to....i'm experiencing a lot of heartache right now..but i'm good...
to me there was never a good outweighs the bad type of thing..it just was what it was....and i dealt with it the best i knew how....THIS IS NO FUN to me at all...
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Tyyyyygeeeerrrrrrrrr!!!
Honey you said it perfectly here "i always knew he wouldn't leave her for me...the only thing i wanted was for him to make me feel special and treat me with dignity and respect and give me the time and attention i deserve"
If you are the OW, then there is NO dignity or respect in that and you will NEVER get what you truly deserve!
My MM and I have been together for over 8 years. There have been bad times, but no awful times. We love and respect each other too much for that. He is my best friend, and I am his. Even sucky days like today, where we both had sucky personal issues, we still found time to laugh, and hold each other, as I cried on him.
Yes, Aland can be really hard, trust me, in the 22+ years of my marriage, I had more A's than I care to recall, so I have experienced every feeling out there, but, they are to me, (until this one)escapes from the pressures of real life.
I wouldn't trade a minute of my life with my MM.
mom
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