Is anyone else married like me???

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Is anyone else married like me???
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:44pm
I am married. The OM is not. Anyone else in a situation like mine? I am glad I don't have to worry about the OM having a W and finding out. I just need to hide it from my H. Sure hope I don't get caught when things really start to get wild. Also I have to say that I can't stay off of this board. I love it here. I keep hitting the refresh button. AAGGHH!

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:47pm
Yes, I am married, but so is MM. So we both have to be careful. I imagine things would be a bit easier if he or I werent married, one less person to worry about finding out.


Hope

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 3:56pm
I'm M and my OM isn't.

It makes things a little strange - I ask myself what if a lot.

What if he falls in love with me. What if he get another girlfiend.

He has a GF according to gossip - but have seen them together a few times and not "heat" between them.

It is hard - because he is free to do and go when I'm not.

I know it sounds strange to say this - but just be honest with each other.

ej

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 4:05pm
Hi there,

i love this board too. it has been great for me. i am married but my man is married also and that sucks so bad and he feels guilty often, you are so luck to not have to deal with a w. i on the other hand have to deal with that stuff but she can't even get close to me as far as looks and body and all that, so i never worry about comparing myself to her but it seems so much easier dealing with a sm, but that can get messy also, but anyways nice chatting with you,

princess

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 4:17pm
Hi Baby - Yes, I am M (married), and in an EMA with a MM. I will be D'ing (divorcing), but I still wouldn't want H (husband) to know - not that he could say anything as he asked for a D to be with OW (other woman) - what a web!

There are a few members here that are M in an EMA with an OM.

I know what you mean about the board - though I haven't had much time to be here lately. I hope you are finding it helpful and insightful.

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 4:39pm
i to am M and so is my MM. i deal with my H and he deals with his W. we do have some miles between us and that maybe helpful. but it sure does limit quality time. thank heavens for computers and ims and email. as for getting caught he has come close and so have i. actually we both must be pretty good at telling stories cuz by all the info both our spouses had they had us dead on. but we have gotten out of the so called trap. now we are being real careful.
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 6:37pm
I'm M, and OM is single... but OM is quickly becoming "just another man" so we'll have to see... no matter what, I'm sticking around here. This is a wonderful group of friends.

-lily
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 6:39pm
I am married with an unmarried OM. Its not easier. sometimes i WISH my om had been married from the start. Sometimes i wish i had never started this at all. It is VERY hard if you fall in love and he is available all the time, and you are not. It is hard knowing he doesn't like to be alone on friday nights or valentine nights and you are with your H. Because i have known him to be single and there for me from the beginning, its going to kill me when he gets a girlfriend, like i know will eventually happen. Its hard when we get together in groups and he is alone and my husband keeps coming up to me and kissing me, etc.

It has killed me knowing that his ex-girlfriend has been begging him back for the last year and i think he is starting to give in... And can i blame him? Why should he be alone all the time waiting around for my free moments.

Don't mean to sound negative, just kind of venting i guess. Good luck. Im here if ya need to talk.

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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 9:23pm
yes i am married om is not.but the difference is my wonderful om is totally committed to me.i have set him up with 4 different friends that he knows nothing about and he has refused them all!he also gets up at 4am in the morning when my hubby leaves for work so we can talk for 3 hours everyday before he has to go to work.he takes care of his elderly parents so money is a problem for him and my kids are why i stay with hubby right now.so it works out pretty good.
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 12:01am
I use to be on this board but now i am on the ending an A board. I am married and OM is not. It use to seem so perfect. After years of his waiting for me, he gave up. Actually he met a single woman and started his life with her. It almost killed me. I has been a yr now since things ended and I still have a lot of pain. Of course i can understand his wanting a love who can be there for him all the time. I love him enough to admit that, but my heart still has a big hole in it. Good luck.
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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 10:51am
Im happily married with an OM who has a g/f...so my situation is similar...

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