Anyone far more attractive than MM's W?

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Anyone far more attractive than MM's W?
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Mon, 04-05-2004 - 6:41pm
..And how does it affect the dynamic of your relationship?

I have had the opportunity to meet and hang out with MM's wife on several occasions. Now, I'm being extremely mean here (I'm NOT like this in real life), but she's definitely not the most attractive person in the world. Overweight despite never having kids, a not-so-pretty face, strange body shape, shorter not so great hair. I'm not a model, but I've stayed lean my whole life, nice hair, pretty good looking. I've been told my butt is ideal. :)

However, MM's wife is the NICEST person in the world. Very much of a sweetheart. She does everything for MM.

I'm a pretty nice woman, too, but I'd never wait on him hand and foot quite like she does. So I feel pretty rotten about that. But at the same time, I really can't blame MM for seeking some lovin' outside his marriage.

For me, it makes it so I really have NO jealousy about MM's wife at all.

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 9:46am
I do not even know what MM's wife looks like, hair colour or anything. The most he's said about her is she is "attractive". I don't really care to know what she looks like anyways.

What I DO KNOW, is how much he likes my looks. The compliments about my body, etc. are never ending and i LOVE that.

Dusty
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 9:50am
Hmm... well, as usual, I'll leap up and run my mouth... er... fingers.

My W is very pretty. She has a very "classic" look; the kind that men like, but over the years I've personally heard a lot of women say to her "you're so pretty." Kind of weird actually. I think my friends' women talk about her more than my friends do. She's blonde, dresses professionally or hip casual, slightly overweight but great hair, beautiful smile and very full breasted. Oddly enough... that's not really the kind of woman I'm most attracted to, which she knew before we got together because we were friends.

The OW... very petite, not nearly as pretty though she is attractive in a "radiating sensuality" way. Funny, she's gained about 15 pounds in the last six months (and still very small) and thinks her chest is big... like a small 34C. She saw my W for the first time last weekend... laughed and said, "Oh, now I know why you never really comment when I say I have big boobs now." Afterwards she did remark that I "never told her the B was so pretty. Made me want to back into her big, pretty car."

The dynamic... no effect. The OW is incredibly sensual and very complementary to my interests and ideas. She knows that I didn't choose my W based on her looks and I didn't choose her (the OW) on looks either. I know she doesn't love that my W makes a lot of money and has a nice car and is pretty and everything else, but I think she knows that my feelings are not based on those things, and obviously my happiness isn't either.

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:38am
Aren't most affairs started on the basis of looks? I am not sure I would have caught my MM eye if I was not attractive. He kids me that I am his "superfly arm trophy". Though that irritates my friends to no end, I kind of like it. He is always telling me how beautiful I am, and what a great body I have. I don't even have to be wearing makeup or fixed up. He tells me this in the mornings when we wake up and when we are out. I have only seen pictures of his wife, and she seems fairly average. Even if she was the most beautiful thing in the world, would I be jealous? No, because I know who has his heart and mind.
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:51am
I can't in good conscience talk about this. I'm already sleeping with the woman's husband, which I have serious issues with, obviously not serious enough, but anyway.. I'm not going to try and compare myself with her. I'm having problems dealing with my actions at this point anyway. No matter if she's aesthetically privilaged or not, she's at this point more beautiful than me on the inside. :-( Makes me wonder, what is it that he is really interested in??
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 11:14am
Well having never met the W but having the unfortunate pleasure of running into them(MM& W) in a resturant while I was with my Grandmother, I do know the W is very attractive & does everything for MM, waits on him hand and foot.

But I also think I am pretty attractive myself. I dont really think it has any affects on the dynamics of our R. But am I jealous of her , sometimes I am but only because of the fact that (from what he says, so i take it with a grain of salt , cause there are 2 sides to every story) she dont really appreciate all the things he does and stuff. It ticks me off sometimes but...I dont say anything to him I usually listen and then i call my girlfriend and bitch about it to her. But in the end I try to remind myself what this is all about and the fact remains that she is his W & I will always be the OW & I have a H... this will always be an A....MGT

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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 7:59pm
I have seen OM's fiancee' once. She is shorter than me, with shorter hair, slightly overweight, and I guess would be considered "cute". OM tells me I am "beautiful", "gorgeous" and "hot", which he may say to her too for all I know...
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 10:00pm
I think the fascination with me is I am 14 years younger.. I have only seen a picture of OM W and it was from their wedding 20 some years ago...

I have heard her on his cell, and she isn't very nice to him. Friend of theirs divorced due to an affair and she made a comment about men who have affairs usually end up with a woman who is exactly like the wife they left them for.. he called me that night and said to me that she and I could be more different.. I guess it is what attracted him to me.

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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 4:08pm
Funny topic! The answer to your question...I am WAY, WAY, WAY more attractive than her. In fact, she is overweight, has really thin hair, draws on her eyebrows, ONLY wears jeans (because her thighs are so big), and I think her eyes are too far apart and she is ALWAYS eating....it's pretty gross. When I met him one of the first times I was dropping my DD off at his DD's bday party. He remembers exactly what I was wearing that day and said he was just in a trance over my legs. I am naturally thin (never had to diet or watch what I eat) and I was wearing pretty short shorts that day (I have long legs). His W never wore shorts. That was his initial attraction with me. Now, I am his trophy g/f. I have no problem being his trophy!!!!!
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 4:26pm
It does not affect the dynamic of our relationship at all. Nope, we are not all that shallow... LOL We are pretty good looking people both OM and me. WE are average in height weight and all othe important stats. :) I don't want to compare him to my H and never have. I know my OM doesn't compare me to his ex. That's the way I prefer it. :) We are not it this for the looks - we want to be life partners and it takes more then beauty to accomplish that.
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Wed, 04-07-2004 - 5:03pm
Well, it’s funny what I have read so far on this posting. As far as my MM's W, she is an attractive woman, very successful and works out 5 times a week and in fantastic shape. She is a little self-absorbed sometimes but has always been very friendly with me. However, she has asked a few questions that has made me to believe that she is a little jealous of me. During the holiday's we were all at the same party and she put her face up to mine, looked right at her h and said am I as pretty as she is? Of course he said yes! On the other hand I have been labeled as the trophy wife. Where she is in great shape physically. I have more curves and I dress more hip (I guess you would call it). She has really short hair and I have long blonde hair. Just two opposite looks! Anyway, that 's my 2 cents! NMR