Anyone feel this way?

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Anyone feel this way?
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Sat, 04-25-2009 - 8:53am

As some of you know,i am a MW in a PA with a much younger man,to be specific,i am 54 and my AP is 38.A lot of age difference,yeah.But its purely about S.He has a new baby and is devoting more time home and is being less available ( no feelings,just S).I am planning for a new one.A thought has been on my mind for sometime.Being with a younger guy now,i am finding tough to go in for someone around my age.Any one feel this way?? I mean,if the SW here who have a younger AP find tough to date someone older than them? What i am trying to say is that when you can have a younger AP,would you settle for an older or same age as you?

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Sat, 04-25-2009 - 9:10am

Hi funky,

I've had As with both younger and older men. Each have their own advantages and less interesting aspects. I've had an A with someone 9 years younger than me, and an A with someone 8 years older. Personally I prefer an older partner. I appreciate their life experience and they tend to be more attentive in bed (and now with ED meds they're just as 'performant' as the younger ones, lol)

My younger xAP said that older women are much better in bed, they know what they want and ask for it. Also older women don't sweat the small stuff and are more independent. So he appreciated having an older AP :)

hope this helps :)

trixie xo

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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 11:14am

LOL! Thankyou for your POV.

I was talking to a single guy friend of mine and the topic came up.He is D ( 3 years ago) and is now dating.he once casually dated a younger woman, in her late 30s,didnt work out somehow.Ever since that R,he is of the mind set that when he can find a younger woman,he sees plenty of flaws in the women around his age and is ever since on the look out for younger women.He regrets the end of that R, feels he should have compromised !
OTOH, I have had a younger AP as well and now dont find men my age as attractive as the younger ones,lol.
The older ones have had many partners while the younger ones less,though they are more mature and settled in life, sigh.Tough decision.
Thanks for your post! (( hugs ))

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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 1:02pm
Won't really (except the physical age difference) say that 54 and 38 is any difference than I would maybe say about a relationship between someone in their 50s and 20s.
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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 2:19pm
Sorry,allover_again, I dont completely understand what you are trying to say.Is it that age is only a number? True for many tho.They say Love is Blind.When i see May-dec Rships,i tend to believe it! But i am becoming more aware of the fact that if an older person finds a younger person,they want to keep them..last chance to life ? Younger ones are ' more ' in all aspects!!
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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 10:27pm
Sorry for the confusion. I meant that it is only a number when age comes to persons over thirty. In other words, I don't consider your affair as May-Dec type despite the fact that he is younger than you. Am I making sense? On the other hand, it is probably true for most women that younger partners are more in all aspects, but for us men (or rather I), an older woman is more desirable than a neonate.