Anyone here NOT jealous of W?
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Anyone here NOT jealous of W?
| Wed, 11-12-2003 - 11:48am |
Is there anyone here not jealous of MM's W?? Heck, when it comes to sex, the fact that he's married TURNS ME ON! i knew i was going into an A with a MM... i knew he wasn't looking to spend ALL his time with me, i knew he'd have to leave at the end of the night.
Anyway... i'm not jealous of his W. i knew he was a MM when we started this. i have met her, and his kid. They are pretty cool. He's known her since i was six. How can i be jealous of that?? i mean, even when he's done fence sitting if he were to actually end up wtih me, i still wouldn't care if he was pretty close with her. You can't just brush off knowing someone for that long, no matter how it "ends up".

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MM is on his third M and really wants to make this one work. he doesn't want to lose everything if he divorces again and MM is getting closer and closer to retiring. i understand all that and what MM wants and needs. i'm fine with providing the fun and games. his W gets all the serious stuff.
frankly, i'm not sure i would want MM full-time.
gurl
MM would take way too much effort to get him straight. and i just can't see myself starting over on a full-time relationship at this point in my life. i'm just too old to change!!
gurl
just rambling!! i'm glad i am not the only one who feels this way!!
Hi jenn,
I too am not jealous of MM's wife... just as he isn't jealous of DH.
Sweet
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Nope, not jealous here either. Oh, I was a couple times earlier in the relationship, but I knew a condition of our relationship was that he was/is/will be married. And, I've known W and children as long as I've known him, and can appreciate her good qualities.
So, I don't have a problem with the weekends or holidays when he is with his family. I know he appreciates I respect that aspect of *his* life, just as I respect that he makes the conscious effort to keep it seperate.
Sure, I would love to be able to have an open relationship with MM (I'm seperated, D will be final in near future), but I wouldn't be ready to co-habitate, lol. I'd even go so far as to say MM should consider dating (twist knife) *if* he were to seperate or divorce, for both our sakes (and then, I'm sure I would be very jealous).
You are right about the close relationship, especially with children involved - it is important to maintain as good a relationship as possible with the other parent. I know that first hand with stbxH - though I find it difficult to remain civil with him (stbxH)and could easily brush off knowing him for 20+ years if it weren't for the children. Still, I'm learning and it is a reminder to me what I do not want in a relationship (gotta remain positive, lol).
I know MM is not looking for a replacement W, any more than I would want to be a replacement W at this point.
LOL, can this really be healthy?
Meow
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