Anyone here NOT jealous of W?

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Anyone here NOT jealous of W?
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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 11:48am
Is there anyone here not jealous of MM's W?? Heck, when it comes to sex, the fact that he's married TURNS ME ON! i knew i was going into an A with a MM... i knew he wasn't looking to spend ALL his time with me, i knew he'd have to leave at the end of the night.

Anyway... i'm not jealous of his W. i knew he was a MM when we started this. i have met her, and his kid. They are pretty cool. He's known her since i was six. How can i be jealous of that?? i mean, even when he's done fence sitting if he were to actually end up wtih me, i still wouldn't care if he was pretty close with her. You can't just brush off knowing someone for that long, no matter how it "ends up".

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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 9:47pm
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Edited 11/12/2003 11:36:50 PM ET by charlotte1203


Edited 6/1/2004 10:49 pm ET ET by charlotte1203

 

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Thu, 11-13-2003 - 10:48am
I used to be jealous but i have realized that it wasn't good for me or my relationship with him. So i have recently made a real conscious effort to not be. So far so good. Its amazing what a little attitude adjustment can do.

We have a very active sex life where almost anything goes. We were both surprised that we both had the same curiousitys. So the things that we do, i thought were between him and I....well it came out in conversation that he and w had done something we had talked about doing. I was so bummed. I kinda asked a little bit on this and he said, well we do do stuff...I was crushed.

That stung cuz i thought we shared something him and w didn't. So now, i don't want to know anything that goes on in the bedroom wigh his w. I am learning to listen to the rest of his lifes details, but i don't want to know about that part of it. And i guess it just sucked cuz my h and i have a pretty crappy sex life and i am not really interested in fixing it either.

Like the other poster said (can't remember who it was) I am envious that w knows so much about him. THey have been together for so long...since they were near kids. Lot of years...and i get the impression that between them, its like they are newlyweds. So that is tough to deal with also....but i am really trying...trying real hard to accept this and not be jealous.

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Fri, 11-14-2003 - 1:25pm
Not jealous, but am a little envious when I can't get away when he gets the "urges" and he satisfies them elsewhere. Sometimes he has to wait if it's not too long but then when we do get together it's over so quick cuz he hasn't had any in so long. I'm just envious of the times we're not able to spend together. Our moments together are just that ... moments. Most of the time we spend is via telephone and I email him every blue moon. Other than that the time we see eachother is usually short fleeting moments. My H and his W keep short leashes. Other than that, we're FWOBs for the most part.

As far as "jealous", not in the least. I am more attractive and have a better body (despite me being 15 yrs older than her). Plus, she's got a stick in the mud personality, ultra conservative. I'm adventurous as is MM.

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