Anyone in a long distance relationship?

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Registered: 05-26-2003
Anyone in a long distance relationship?
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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 11:00pm
My MM moved a few states away for a job as he was laid off. His family is still here in the same town but will be joining him shortly. Before he left, he was depressed about losing his job and he had alot to deal with so we never got to say goodbye or have one last time together.

Lately he's been pushing me to get away for a few days to come down to see him before his family joins him. We have been good friends for years and become intimate about a year ago. I would give anything to go see him but to get away from my own husband for a few days would be very tricky. I can make an excuse to get away for a couple of hours, but how would I justify a whole weekend? I just don't feel comfortable with this and am afraid that my husband would find out.

Part of me is upset that he didn't try harder to see me before he left but he says he's pushing me now because we may never have a chance to be together again. I know he had alot of stress to deal with before he left town but I feel like he's asking alot of me. He says when he comes back to town to move his family he probably cannot get away to see me.

Both of us have marriages that we are questioning if we really want to end it or if the issues in our relationships can be overcome.

We both think about each other all the time and I do think I love him but have never told him. I'm not sure if he loves me or not but I know he has feelings for me.

I know I'm just venting my frustrations but if anyone has any insight or advice I'd really appreciate it.

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Registered: 05-26-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 11:07am
Am I the only one in a long-distance relationship? Looks that way! If anyone has any input on my situation or any thoughts, I would appreciate it. Thanks!!
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Registered: 10-06-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 1:01pm
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Edited 9/20/2004 1:54 pm ET ET by seansluv
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 3:30pm
Plan yourself a fantasy romantic weekend with him in his new city. You probably need to get away and the weekend trip will leave you smiling for a month. My long distance affair is incredible. We meet each month.
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Registered: 05-26-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 3:57pm
Thanks for the reply. I just can't pick up for the weekend and take off. I have a husband and children and can't just take off without some explanation. I've been thinking about some valid excuse but I don't have any family there or anyone that I know. Thanks anyway. If anyone has any ideas I would appreciate hearing them.
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Registered: 11-13-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 4:27pm
Is there a class or a convention you could attend in his city? I have the husband and children at home too but plan business trips to my advantage. Work is my excuse to travel to see the MM in my life.
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Registered: 05-26-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 4:55pm
The company I work for has made major budget cuts and no more travel. My husband knows about the no more travel policy at my company. Maybe there is no valid excuse. It's great you can take business trips, unfortunately in my line of work that is very rare.