Anyone in a Long-Term Affair?

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Registered: 08-31-2003
Anyone in a Long-Term Affair?
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Tue, 10-21-2003 - 8:39pm
I need to chat with someone who can relate...

I've been in a relationship with a married man for over 10 yrs (I'm married also).

Both are marriages have been over for so long but we both stay for the kids only and plan to leave when the are older. Which is now about 3-4 yrs away now.

It started out for just some fun but has grown to deep, deep feelings for each other.

We are now so close to the kids being almost grown that we talk about the future.

Even though I know he doesn't have a "relationship" with his wife, it is sooo painful to deal with the fact that they still do so much together "with the kids".

I believe everything he tells me but this still sounds so cliche'!

Can anyone relate to any of this? I sometimes wish I never got on this roller coaster ride and want off, and then I realize I don't know what I would do without him in my life.

just need someone that can relate to the happiness and heartache that this type of life brings.
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Thu, 11-13-2003 - 3:20am
It has been 12 years for me and my MM........I do not believe after this long an A develops into anything else....see my early posting......If he has been married this long, he has no intentions of leaving, I think it was on the 2nd page - "After 12 years I think we are finally through.......


Hang in there,

Silly

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Registered: 05-26-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 7:40am
sorry wrong past


Edited 11/13/2003 7:42:45 AM ET by mommykitty2003
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 11-13-2003 - 9:28am
I have only been in my A for 2 years but Im expecting it to become a long term thing. Howverwe have many bumps in our road ahead of us ie. his marriage and my having children...major life changing events. Only time will tell if we will make it or not. In certain ways I can relate to you already with juggling all of the emotions of the time he spends with his fiance doing things as a family etc...but I do the same things with my DH and in all reality, that's what we have - just a part time thing...

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