Anyone pregnant by H but having an A?

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Registered: 12-19-2008
Anyone pregnant by H but having an A?
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Sat, 12-20-2008 - 2:29pm

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Sat, 12-20-2008 - 9:30pm

Yes. I'm one of those. I was in an EA with AP for 9 months when I found out I was pregnant. He and I had never even touched each other, other than a friendly hug in front of alot of people(we go way back as friends).

I was so nervous about telling him because 1. It was a HUGE OOPS. 2. I was very bummed because I wanted to continue to explore our new relationship and we were very close to taking it to the physical level(ours was a very slow process, which I liked). I felt a little dirty at the idea of being in an A while pregnant with H's baby.

AP and I had made plans to have our first get together to be several months down the road. We are in a semi LDA. We live about 2 hours apart. Well, I knew being pregnant I wasn't going to be able to see him as I would have been 7 months along at that point. I was very bummed about not being able to see him.

I told him that we were gonna have to cancel the time together as I am(was) pregnant. He said, why would we do that? I've always wanted to have sex with a pregnant girl. They are so beautiful. Well, I came around to his way of thinking and we actually met 2 weeks later and had our first "date". I was sick as a dog the entire day before but miraculously, I was fine for the date. We sat at a bar and talked. I was only 6 or 8 weeks at that point. We continued the A throughout the course of my pregnancy and are still involved. It's been 2 and a half years from day day one of the EA.

He was supportive of me throughout the pregnancy, I was also in college....full time, working part time and he was a huge support.

So, I guess it just depends on what YOU are comfortable with and what your AP are comfortable with. Me and AP have known each other for over 16 years. We have a history. He was my first love and we didn't work out. But we still always carried a torch for one another.

Good luck to you and congratulations on the pregnancy.
LM

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Sun, 12-21-2008 - 1:51pm

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Registered: 11-26-2007
Mon, 12-22-2008 - 12:23am

Hi Shouldasaidno, congrats on your pregnancy. WOW, I really do not know how you can do it. But