Anyone in Therapy?

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Anyone in Therapy?
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 8:53pm
Just wondering if anyone is seeing a therapist? I saw one for the first time this week. Though everything is going great with my OM and has been for almost 2 years I feel I'm at the point where I need to talk to someone. My OM and I are very much in love and want to be together but so many complications exist. Cannot even imagine my life without him in it. Several times a day phone calls and seeing each other at least 4 times a week and sometimes more. Wonderful, relaxing, sensual happy times. I just miss him so much when we are apart. Weekends are difficult but the weeks are wonderful.
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Registered: 05-19-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 6:40pm
I know I should be in therapy.... I have manic ups with MM and huge downs when we're apart. It's just like a bi-polar feeling when we're getting along, yet when the weekends aproach or when I'm feeling like things are not going "too" well, I feel very, very depressed. The most important thing I have to keep reminding myself is that I have to focus on my children and myself first.... which many days is hard to do!

It's totally different with my DH. When we fight I realize that we'll work it out and nobody is leaving the relationship. We will go to sleep and be there when eachother wakes up. MM isn't there when I go to bed, or wake-up... so the reality of the relationship has to be put into perspective and the proximity of where he is lots of time is hard to swallow.

jen

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 7:33pm
I think about it a lot. I'm going through a divorce. It was my idea and it's the right thing to do, but there's still lots of baggage that I'd just as soon work through with a therapist as with OM. He's very happy to play that role - he has in the past and when it got too much for him, he's always been candid about it - so I know I could use him for it. But I'd rather not.

I tell myself that I'm choosing to need him. That I'd do just fine on my own if I wanted, but I'm choosing to open my heart and need him. And I'm sure it's true. But it's also true that he's making this divorce so much easier than it otherwise would be. I sometimes think that therapy would make me a stronger person and therefore stronger in the realities of our life together.

But....I also think that if money is going to be spent on a therapist, it ought to be for the kids. I've done my selfish thing. Time to give to them again. Just wish we could all go.

Lucky

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Sat, 05-22-2004 - 9:26pm
No but sometimes I sure think I could use one!!

dd

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 9:53pm
Yes, I've been in therapy for 3 months. And I feel like it's helping. I have someone that I can talk to without having the worry of being judged. Which is a great thing.

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 12:37am
I was seeing a therapist because I thought I was happily married, but then found myself having a number of A's over a period of one year. I saw the therapist because I needed someone to talk to and didn't quite know what to do and why this was happening. Now I understand more about why it was happening, but I still don't know what to do. I talked to the therapist about how to focus on my marriage, as I kind of thought that's what I should do, but I also thought it was over between me and the one OM that I knew I really fell for.

I never stopped having feelings for OM, and we ended up getting back together. So now I'm toying with how to maneuver a D and although I've progressed with more knowledge from working with the therapist, I also feel like I'm back at square one because I'm back at not really knowing myself what I really want to do. Maybe I should see another therapist?