Anyone tired of having A?
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Anyone tired of having A?
| Sun, 05-09-2004 - 2:36pm |
Does anyone ever get tired of having an A? I mean, do any of you ever want to pursue an actual relationship with your OM/OW?
I've been in A with OM for 5 months now and I'm in love with OM. I am tired of putting my own feelings to the side and want to express them openly and freely. Does anyone else feel this way?

BB
About the OP's book "Woman who loves too much" I don't think it really helped me at all. I am nothing like that person described in that - trying to over each to your man without any self respect. nah! not me. :)
Juliet
deedee
I love being a mistress. It took a while to figure out that an A takes totally different skills than does a marriage, and to learn to appreciate an intense relationship where the contact comes only in small doses. But I love it now. I try to see it the same way I see my friendship with my closest female friend : we see each other a couple times a month and call a couple times a week. When I'm not with her, I don't obsess about how she feels about me, I just know she still loves me, and I her. And when we get together, we have a wonderful time. I'm trying to see the A the same way, a close, stable friendship with the extra pleasure of sex. If I look at it that way, it's totally rewarding. I would MUCH rather be OMM's mistress than his second W.
not hesitate for 1 minute.
I am tired of the ups and downs, but when I am with him, I
am at peace. It is worth it.
Bunny
My affair is a real relationship. No, we're not getting married, at least not in the forseeable future. But we share our feelings, our hopes and our dreams. We write together, so we're building something personally, professionally, and someday, financially. We have limits on our relationship that I don't like, but seldom a day goes by that we don't talk and email. And I've been married before. Those relationships had their own sets of limits.
I share with him, both good and bad. He's there for me, whether we always agree or not. We fuss and make up and are growing together more every day.
I choose to share my love with him. I've not regretted it.
Cazrida
Don't get me wrong-I do NOT regret a minute of my A. There are just times when I wish there could be more. That is all. I think we all feel that way sometimes being under these circumstances!
I go through the same feelings. Its like a roller coaster ride. One week I'll be content or extremely happy to be the "other" woman. And then a week later I want to be the ONLY woman.