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Anyone try to break off A and didn't hap
| Fri, 01-23-2009 - 5:24pm |
Hey there,
Anyone try to break up with A and they wouldn't let you? I have tried to break off my affair 3 times and my GF more or less wouldn't let me. Of course i couldve if I really wanted to. I felt at the time it would have been too devastating to her(she was nearly suicidal). I just wanted to get my stuff straight w MP

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There's no such thing as "try". You just do. Delete her from your contact list. Block her from your email so she can't get a hold of you and walk away without looking back. If she is suicidal, you're NOT equipped to help her unless you're a professional. And by you giving her mixed signals is the worst thing that you can do for someone who's mentally unstable....
Also, please learn from this. Don't play with a woman's emotion if you're already committed to someone else.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
I probably already know the answer I'm going to get to this question, but why did you go to bed with her?
Goddess,
I take it you're not currently in an affair or you would have understood this? If you are coming out of a bad one then I wish you well in the future. I
>>>"I take it you're not currently in an affair or you would have understood this?"<<<
Nope, I'm with AP (now BF) in real life. I was never in a bad break-up (except for when I had to get a D from my H who doesn't want to let go) and I'm not a man hater....tee hee!. But even if I was, your previous post sounded like you wanted to get out of the A and she wouldn't let you. Which will then still result in my same response.
Now that you've elaborated on your situation, then I now "get" what you're trying to say.
>>>"Our communication together is 100% honest and successful. I had simply asked for a break and she was afraid she would lose me. We are still together and love each other more than ever."<<<
Well then, that's all we want to hear around here. As long as both people involved are happy.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Amex!
To GG and Oxbell,
OMG, you both have given me so much hope! I mean that. My gf and I hope to be together soon in an honest, loving, caring NON-CHEATING realtionship. We are working towards it. I am M with no children. I was faithful for 10 years. Easy for me to leave without children to hurt. She has kids, so she is trying to get out as graceful as possible without hurting her kids.
Glad you posted back because I want to make it clear that I'm not encouraging you to stay in your marriage or leave it - I'm encouraging you to follow your heart and if you have to hurt someone (which is inevitable) - do it honestly.
Hi Amex,
I guess your GF is terrified of losing you, even if you reassure her that the goal is for a positive outcome for both of you, as you and she both know nothing is certain in these A situations... but I still think you are making the right move to take a break while you are sorting your stuff out with MP. Maybe you could just go LC while you are thinking things through? Just a thought. With women it's all in how you approach it, lol ;-)
good luck!
trixie
Are you equally afraid of hurting your W? The emotional ups and downs are what
keep you in it. You like it.
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