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Anyone try to break off A and didn't hap
| Fri, 01-23-2009 - 5:24pm |
Hey there,
Anyone try to break up with A and they wouldn't let you? I have tried to break off my affair 3 times and my GF more or less wouldn't let me. Of course i couldve if I really wanted to. I felt at the time it would have been too devastating to her(she was nearly suicidal). I just wanted to get my stuff straight w MP

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Oxbell,
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>>>And as far as me getting slammed, well, I just think there are some people who don't want to deal with their unethical choices, and would prefer to be supported for leading dishonest lives
You rock amex!
``I have tried to break off my affair 3 times and my GF more or less wouldn't let me. `
What did she do, tie you to the bed and force you to stay. simply be done with it and no longer call her and let her be with someone who can give her 100%
Survivor,
Blue,
Good answer, good answer! However, she's married with two kids so don't think she wants nor needs
You're not a horrible person... sometimes we just make not so great decisons or think far enough ahead. It's hard when having 2 relationships to give both 100%.
It's the same with my relationship. I cannot give her 100% and she cannot give me 100% as she has a husband and child. We never plan to be together for life; it's simply that suppliment we both need/want. It's that soft feminine relationship I crave on the side.
Blue,
You're right we often not make right decisions. I thought I was too old to make mistakes but I guess not. Sometimes seems like when you can't give 100% then both people lose? Understand the bi side very well BTW.
Amexdm
This has happened a couple of times with my AP...The first few times he tried breaking it off and I was the one who wouldn't let go..I didn't mind so much letting go as the fact of why he was choosing to break it off with me...Each time he was mad at either something I said or something I wasn't doing that he was expecting and I was supposed to read his mind about.
Though you may not realize this, what he is doing to you in regards to your job has a name and it's called "Sexual Harrassment". If you're really serious about wanting to get rid of this idiot, then I would tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone you will go to HR and file a harrassment complaint against him that could very well result in his termination. Not a good thing when the economy is so bad. And be prepared to follow through. It doesn't matter if you were at one time involved with him. Fact is you don't wish to be involved with him anymore and he is threatening you. I would also tell him that you will file a restraining order against him if he continues to threaten to come to your home or contact you or your husband.
No offense, but for someone who seems to believe in free love, it doesn't sound so free to me, you know? I'd take any step necessary to get this person out of your life. And after that, I'd seriously consider getting involved in something like this again.
I'm not sure if both people lose if they don't get 100%. I think it would depend what they expect and what you expect. If one expects 100% and eventually wants that from you, then yes someone loses out. I tried dating this one woman who I was upfront about that I would never leave DH and
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