AP actually told her
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| Mon, 06-15-2009 - 9:06am |
AP and I have been talking a lot lately about starting a real life together. We are going on 21 months now and have been pretty serious the last few months.
I am D and he is still M. He told me that he had planned to tell her he wants out of the M this weekend. He has said that before and actually started the "i'm unhappy conversation" with her last weekend but said he didn't have the guts to finish it.
He told me last night would be the night and i have to admit I wasn't 100% convinced he was going to do it. But I got a text from him last night around midnight that said "She left. She may want to talk to you but I wouldn't answer." She knew about a year and a half ago that AP and I had something going on so she is familiar with me. I texted him back and asked if he is ok and he replied "No". So I texted him and asked if he needed to talk and he never replied.
My stomach is in knots. I haven't talked to AP this morning and am not sure if he will show up at work or not. He works at the other end of the building I work in. I feel sorrow for his W and pain for AP. The thought of us being together at some point down the road excites me, but right now I am not feeling too hot.
Thanks for letting me talk.

My MM and i are continuing our thing while the W believes we are NC.Giving the entire thing some time.He spends saturday night with me;)
I hope it works out for you but it can go either way.
Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you.
I just wanted to update everyone that things are going as well as can be expected.
We found AP and apartment and he will try to get moved into it this weekend. He has been firm with his W about wanting out of the marriage and has made it clear that there is no negotiating, but that he wants it as peaceful as possible so to not drag the kids through the mud. He plans to help with yardwork and start fixing up the house a little in case she decides she wants to move out of it.
His lease is for 45 days and then we will assess where he is in the divorce process and how we feel about a trial living arrangement for us.
I am trying to stand back and be here for him and just be supportive. He has his moments where he falls apart, but overall he really seems to have a handle on everything. I am still completely shocked that this is happening but I couldn't love him more and can't wait until we can be a real couple.
Glad to hear back from you.