AP cheated on me-sick -help

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AP cheated on me-sick -help
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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 11:53am

Hey there-


MM w AP for 2 years. Just found out she cheated on me. She went on business for two weeks and hooked up with some guy. Blew me away. She has always been a 10 in being attentive to me and then dropped to 1 for the last two weeks. She has been lying to me for a week and she finally spilled it

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 12:52pm

Is your AP married or single? Strangely, if she's married I would view this as cheating on you (weird and illogical, but that's how I would feel), but if she's single, I'd say she has every right to seek out other options.

I'm a MW with a single man and if he did that I'd want him to be honest but I wouldn't view it as "cheating", because he should be able to find a "real" relationship. I have no intention of leaving my H so he has every right to want a family of his own.

Have you and your AP discussed a future together? If you have, and you plan to leave your wife, then you might have more validity to the "cheating" charge.

All that aside, I know you're hurting and I'm sorry for that. I hope you and your AP use this as an opportunity to sort out what you both want from each other and what you can both expect from each other.

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 1:55pm

Lexi,


Thks for your reply. She is married. I view it as cheating. She has made it very clear that she does not want me to be with anyone else including my wife.


We have discussed a future together and this is hurtful. Your last sentence is brilliant as we will need to sort out or expects for sure.


I have always told her that if she wants to date others be my guest. I just dont want that type of relat.

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Thu, 02-11-2010 - 2:02pm
Glad I could help! Please keep posting here - a view from the MM side of things is always very prized around here!
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Fri, 02-12-2010 - 2:17pm
Sounds like you have a real loosy goosy on your hands. I hope you are having protected S with her. She's M, having an A and picks up someone as a ONS. That doesn't sound good. Why do you stay in an abusive M anyway if your W treats you so horrible? I hope it's not because of kids because your kids don't need to see their father being abused.
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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 5:30am
IMAO: You have nothing to complain about. She may have been afraid to tell you. You though have no reason to try and control her. She can be with whom ever she chooses. As can you. So, have you put all your eggs in one basket? If so It is time to find some more baskets!
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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 4:03pm

Xvza_


In my second post I states that SHE did not want me to sleep w anyone else. So kind of double standard. I'm not looking to spread my seed or eggs in too many baskets. Just one good one. So we'll see.


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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 5:35pm
IMAO: Fair's fair! Get out and enjoy yourself. A person who wants a double standard is not being fair. My lovers all knew the boundaries. We discussed them before hand. Remember,there is a big difference between a girlfriend and FWB!! You will have to abide by what is, not what you wish it to be.
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