AP in a coma, please help!

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Registered: 01-16-2007
AP in a coma, please help!
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Thu, 11-20-2008 - 7:50pm

I have not been to MAS in a long time but I really need everyones help, advice and prayers.

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Registered: 04-05-2004
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 3:15pm

Cowgirl,


I'm so sorry for you situation... If the roles were reversed, would you want him to be there for you? They say you can hear when your in a coma. It might make the difference. Noone can tell you the right answer, and all things aside- his family included.... my opionin, is

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 5:10pm

Even though some of the advice is hard to hear, I really appriciate everyones help with this VERY difficult situation.

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Fri, 11-21-2008 - 5:31pm

I am probably a little different than a lot of people on here in that I don't think that you have the "right", so to speak, to go to his family and out your situation. If he hasn't told them the full truth about the two of you as of yet, then there is a reason he doesn't want to, some he's probably told you, some maybe not. I just don't think it's your place to make that decision for him. I can understand going to see him. I can. But divulging to the whole family the entire nature of your relationship seems to me not your call to make. It's his, and since he's not in the position right now to make that call, I think you need to respect that. You can go there as someone who cares about him without getting into anything. And from someone who has experience with knowing someone that was severely head injured and in a coma, I can tell you that all you will do is just go in for a few minutes and stand by his bed, here and there. My friend was in a terrible accident himself and in a coma for about a month. People, even his wife, were allowed in to the ICU for a little bit at a time. He was surrounded by other people with severe injuries. It just isn't the time or place to be all dramatic, if you will. Most likely, you will spend many hours just sitting in a waiting room with others. Though I know you probably think you will be a big help just being there, the reality is that since you dont' really know his family well, you may not. I would seriously consider waiting and seeing how the situation develops. If you absolutely MUST go there, go there as a friend. Say NOTHING to his family. Again, it's just not your place.

As for his hearing you....I've heard that a million times myself, but my friend told me that he never heard anything. Nor does he remember anything between what happened before the accident and when he finally became alert after being out of the coma for awhile. They don't just wake up. It's a gradual thing.

I know it's really hard and a terrible thing. Just keep praying for him and play it by ear.

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Registered: 11-18-2008
Sat, 11-22-2008 - 12:21am
I said earlier that I would go, although I admit you all have valid reasons for saying it's the wrong thing to do.
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Registered: 08-07-2005
Sat, 11-22-2008 - 4:03am

If I'm not mistaken, I believe the coma is due to head injuries.

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Mon, 11-24-2008 - 8:37pm

Thank you all who have responded to my plea for help.

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