AP contacted me & things are worse

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AP contacted me & things are worse
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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 12:46pm

AP contacted me last might on messanger.

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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 2:31am
Aw, sorry you are in so much pain.
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Thu, 08-05-2010 - 3:46pm

Strangely, this seems to be the only type of R where people actually even consider pulling back as an option. Think about normal dating - if either party says "I want it to be less intense", it usually means they don't intend the R to be long lasting, so if that's not what the other party wants they say "NO". But in an A it seems to happen a lot, and it's very hard to deal with. It's unnatural to tone it down. R's are supposed to catch fire and take off, unless they are A's, and then everyone seems to "understand".

I think I'm rambling. I think what I mean to say is if you're NOT ok with making things "less intense" or toning it down, don't be afraid to say so. It could make you miserable to try. It seems to be really hard on people here who attempt it. Maybe one of them can tell you whether it was OK for them or not.

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Registered: 05-15-2008
Thu, 08-05-2010 - 4:53pm

thanks Jane, thanks Lexi for the support. i am hopeful.