AP Ever Suggest Group Sex/Gang Bang

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Registered: 04-13-2009
AP Ever Suggest Group Sex/Gang Bang
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Tue, 01-05-2010 - 11:13am

I have been in a purely PA for about 4 months with someone I have known for a number of years.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 3:01pm
UHMMMM NOPE..when xap and i were together...UHMMM nope..and if you are not down with it..then back away from her....does she normally exhibit hypersexual behavior??????

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 5:46pm

Well first of all I think that talking about fantasies is healthy, exploring them is healthy too. Maybe you should read the sexual fantasies board on here. It might help you understand where she is coming form without getting into a big conversation with her about it.

But if you don't feel comfortable with it tell her. I can understand where you coming from with the record of you being there with her, if you explain that to her she might understand.

I also wonder if the meeting for you are important to you for the sex or are you becoming attached? My meetings are important to me because I only see my AP one a month and I enjoy the sex....I really enjoy the sex.lol

Lastly...yes my AP brought up the group sex thing (not a gang bang though...). its a fantasy for him and that is okay, I'm glad he felt comfortable enough to share some of his fantasies with me. Has it become a reality yet? NOPE!!!lol...and I don't think it will. There is no pressure from his end, it just talk.

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Registered: 04-13-2009
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 7:35pm

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Can one love the sex without being in love with the person with whom they are having the sex?

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Tue, 01-05-2010 - 8:00pm

I think that one can love the sex without loving the person for a period of time. Eventually feelings will develop. It just happens more often to women than to men. So I'm kind of happy that your a MM and posting this...It shows that some men on a certain level may find it difficult to separate the feelings.

In my situation I did not know my AP prior to our affair. We met online. So I do not have a a huge emotional connection to him. I like him and he is a nice guy but our situation is pretty cut and dry I guess. Its a PA and that's it. As time goes on, I'm sure feelings may come into play. I will cross that bridge so to speak and until then....play on!lol.

So I will ask, this revelation of hers freaked you out because its a little ummm...tabu? or you don't want to lose her to someone else if you do go to a "club" with her?

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Registered: 04-13-2009
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 12:51pm

Why am I scared....well, I am most afraid of the risk of exposure of the affair.

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Registered: 07-23-2004
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 4:44pm

I would think that the fear of contacting an std and bringing it home to your W would be of some concern to you. If the OW does it on her own then you would still be in danger. Condums aren't very good as a preventive measure. That genie can't be put back into the bottle.

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 8:41pm

It is not all that uncommon for someone in an affair to want to experiment in pretty wild ways with their AP.


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Registered: 12-29-2008
Wed, 01-06-2010 - 8:52pm
I agree with you completely....well said.