AP: "I miss you"

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Registered: 03-01-2011
AP: "I miss you"
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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 5:17am

Wanted to see me tonight. I said: "Can't. Maybe next week." (I know, I should'nt have) Then I said:  "Maybe next week. If you won't flake on me the last second that is." Him: "Ha! Maybe the week after."

I should just ignore him the next time.

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Registered: 06-03-2012
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 6:06am

Set up a date with him and cancel at the 11th hour...

Blue with all due respect is that all it takes for AP to reel you back in? When are you going to show this a$$hole he can't keep doing this to you?

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 9:10am
Blue I just cringed that you even replied, let alone said "maybe next week". He laughed at your reply and challenged you to the week after like your a joke. Are you a game and do you like this poor treatment? I understand if you get off on the back & forth but if you don't than demand some respect. It's at a point where you can't be upset with him anymore. He does what you allow him to do.
Hugs XoXoXo

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-15-2012
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 9:28am

Oye... the games some guys play.  It's like a tit-for-tat and he keeps getting taken up a notch.  You're right to ignore him and his childish behavior.

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Registered: 10-03-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 1:38pm

Wow! This is one of the most a-hole things I've heard. "Ha!"? its all funny and a joke to him? What he did to you was rude and he had no consideration to your feelings and time. and all he says is 'ha?'. No way Blue, don't let him do this to you. 

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Registered: 03-01-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 2:43pm
I think he's just a stupid child. I feel like I've been giving him too much credit. His "Ha!" is a little boy's nervous laugh. He's not some evil guy that you guys make him out to be...I feel that he's just a VERY SELFISH IDIOT. He doesn't say sorry because he thinks I'll be there anyway.
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Registered: 05-31-2011
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 2:47pm
Well blue it seems as though we are in the same boat...women who were once very strong and confident but now reduced to the needy desperate weaklings...I hate it! I need to take control and stop trying for the old magic and so do you! Let's do this! Take away the power!
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 3:33pm

You are defending him again and we are not saying he's evil. We are simply stating the obvious, which is he plays games with your emotions with no regard to you at all. I think you like playing these games & guess what....he does to.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 03-26-2010
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:09pm

OK, I officially think you like the games he plays, or at least they seem to fulfill some sort of need you have.  The only time you seem to have the least bit of interest in any of the men in your life is when they are making you question their feelings for you.  It's almost like you only can care if they don't seem to.  That said, I'm glad he gives you what you need.  He keeps your mind occupied and he keeps you interested.  He keeps you wanting him.  I don't think that sounds childish. Sounds smart to me!

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:51pm
janejosie wrote:

OK, I officially think you like the games he plays, or at least they seem to fulfill some sort of need you have.  The only time you seem to have the least bit of interest in any of the men in your life is when they are making you question their feelings for you.  It's almost like you only can care if they don't seem to.  That said, I'm glad he gives you what you need.  He keeps your mind occupied and he keeps you interested.  He keeps you wanting him.  I don't think that sounds childish. Sounds smart to me!

Did you just figure that out JJ? Even the guy himself had officially stated that. She asked him why he's such a jerk? The response was: "because you like it". You've got to give him some credit though; he has improved from his "hey" to "I miss you"!

Yes, he's just a stupid little child. That melted my heart. He just needs to be understood :heart:  and, oh, and he doesn't just think that she'll be there anyway, he knows so.

 

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Registered: 06-03-2012
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 12:25am
The guy is an utter narcissist, 'I miss you' was the most endearing thing he has ever said to blue through the duration of their THREE year affair. His other AP did not put up with his crapola and lo and behold, he's back! A child usually apologises for bad behaviour, what did blue's AP do in the last instance? He told her he would do it again, so apart from being a narcissist he is a sociopath.

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