Is AP jealous?

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Registered: 03-27-2008
Is AP jealous?
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Thu, 02-12-2009 - 9:19am

My AP & I are just playing with each other and we have no plans for a serious type of relationship. I am married and he is getting married and we are just having fun together.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: dreamzofu
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 10:10am
I don't know that I would think he was jealous - but it definitely sounds like he's being disrespectful and immature.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2008
In reply to: dreamzofu
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 11:28am

He is definitely immature, that I know already. I keep trying to talk him out of getting married even though they've been together for 7 years. He claims to be such a mammas' boy that at the wedding when they ask him do you take her to be your wife he's going to ask his mom if it's okay.


But he makes me laugh so it can be a good thing, I'm not marrying him so he can keep his personality quirks for her to deal with.

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Registered: 08-02-2000
In reply to: dreamzofu
Thu, 02-12-2009 - 4:27pm
Who knows if he's jealous or not, but why do you want him to be, as you say?
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In reply to: dreamzofu
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 7:37am
If he was jealous even a little then I would know he really did care about me in some way.
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In reply to: dreamzofu
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 7:47pm
I get that, but you said that BOTH of you were just into it for the fun, nothing serious, no emotional attachments, etc. That being said, whether he cares or not shouldn't matter all that much to you, if what you said is true. If, however, what you said was not true and you do want more than getting out of it is probably the best thing you can do. You're already demonstrating something more than just pure fun, so I'd cut my losses and run.
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Registered: 03-27-2008
In reply to: dreamzofu
Thu, 03-05-2009 - 8:34am
I want him to care for me a little. I want him to look forward to seeing me kind of thing but nothing more.
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Registered: 06-19-2008
In reply to: dreamzofu
Thu, 03-05-2009 - 12:01pm

Don't you remember being in Jr. High or High school and having some guy you didn't like having a mad crush on you and when he finally moved on to someone else actually feeling insulted/hurt that he wasn't into you anymore even though you really didn't like him? Have you ever known someone who didn't really want to be with their partner anymore but didn't want anyone else to have them, either?


Jealousy is NOT about caring and/or love. It's about ego, selfishness, wanting to be admired, wanting attention, wanting to be first or the

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In reply to: dreamzofu
Thu, 03-05-2009 - 5:42pm
I agree. Even if he were jealous, that sure doesn't mean he "cares" about you in the sense that you seem to want him to. Furthermore, again, why do you want him to have cared so much if it was all in fun? I think it goes to show that we women are just wired differently than men. We may say we just want sexual fun, etc., but the reality is that we want the ones we are having the fun with to actually have some feelings for us. Men, however, can have the fun and not give a rip about the person they're having it with.