AP lied to me with 3 other women

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Registered: 09-21-2008
AP lied to me with 3 other women
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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 4:38am

Everyone...

I am not new here...I have been here for a long time and been having probs with AP and working for him (see post:

Worried?? :-(

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Registered: 09-21-2008
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 1:29pm

I have approached this subject before..it kind of came up when we had a temp split and I was very upset and I recieved a call on my anwserphone - with him destraught and going on about how he wish he could drive into a tree because it doesn't matter what he does now - he can kiss his wife and his kids goodbye, that i can get my revenge because after tonight he wont be around....ended up with me contacting him to say it wouldn't happen - his normally home by 5 PM and that night couldn't have got home bf 8.30PM and he said that his wife had noticed he had been suspicious and noticed this change in him...shes been suspicious ever since...which is understandable....

Thing is if he can almost take his life over that, imagine if he knew that i knew of the other women...his already said he would deny the affair to protect his kids he'd have to, which is fair enough....if he can over-react like that just with a minor split up - imagine what his going to do when he thinks that i may shop him into his wife bc his having 3 others?

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Registered: 09-21-2008
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 1:34pm
thing is i wouldn't tell his wife and kids...ive been the piggy in the middle in the middle on that one and knows how it feels...i couldn't do that to his kids...
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 1:43pm

I have to agree with sillyme.

 

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Registered: 08-02-2000
Mon, 09-22-2008 - 4:18pm

You're giving this cat WAY too much power over you. The whole suicide drama? Obviously, a manipulation, albeit looney, to get you to do what he wants.

Look, this guy is wack. The best, the ONLY thing you can do if you care about yourself AT ALL, is to cut this guy loose. Kick him to the curb. Later him. You don't need this clown, and why on earth would you even want him? Serious. He sounds like a real prize....if you've won some kind of contest in hell. You, the wife and now this woman are the ones that you know about. There could be others. This guy is incapable of keeping his thingy in his pants. He's cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs.

You don't owe this guy ANYTHING. You do, however, owe it to yourself to extricate yourself from this realtionship, which can only be labeled as dysfunctional.

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Registered: 02-22-2008
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 8:36am

I have followed your story for a long time. I remember you once had NC issues.


It's not unusual for AP's to have several OW's.

Edwina

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