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| Fri, 07-09-2010 - 6:17pm |
I think my A is coming to an end. My AP kept telling me how much he loves me and doesn't want to loose me, so I decided to check how true it is. I knew that he had MySpace account. A few weeks ago, I created a fake account and asked him to add me as a friend. He did. He believes that

Oh man...this guy sounds like SUCH a player!!
I must be reading too many of these sites- I thought there was a similar story but the AP told the woman he knew it was her al along.
But Freedom Im with Kimber on this- he is a chronic player and liar. You will never be able to trust him. I would call him on his behaviour (maybe let him add fake you to FB and then real you can ask who she is - just to make him squirm but also see how readily he lies to you).
Then call him out and tell him goodbye.
I am so sorry you are in this situation- what a mongrel! He doesnt deserve you!
Well I think it was clever of you to use MySpace to figure things out.
"if he cheats with you, what makes you think he wont cheat on you" I hear this all the time and this is the typical example. An A is just an A. Im sorry this is happening to you but ever since day one in my A i always knew "the deal" . I always knew if he cheats with me , he'll cheat on me..its really not even cheating cause i have my partner and he has hes and we are okay with it , i do get jealous when hes with her but who am i ...
Drop him.
Good luck.
If he has added the fake you to his friends, there's no reason, from what he's told the fake you, that you wouldn't maybe post some flirty thing to him. Do that. And then the real you would legitimately be VERY interested in who this person is (maybe his wife too). So then I would ask him who this fake you person is (as someone else mentioned) and see what he says!
It does sound like he's just looking for more fun elsewhere. I'm sorry about how you must be feeling, but better to know than not to know!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Hello everyone,
Thank you for your support and advice. To tell you the truth, I still feel the same way I felt on Friday. I am not mad or angry. I feel sad, betrayed, and confused. I saw AP last Friday. He wanted to have IC, but I just couldn't imagine doing it. I told him that I wasn't feeling that well and we just made out. It wasn't easy. I felt like I wanted to be as far as possible from him. We had a little conversation about what he did that afternoon. He said he spent some time on MySpace talking to old friends. I asked him if I should be jealous about any of his friends. He said no. So I just mentioned to him that if he ever gets involved with some one he should tell me right away. He asked what would I do then. I told him that it would be the end of us. Anyway, the weekend is over and he still hasn't added the fake me to his Facebook even that he did use it every day. I really wish he did, so that I could confront him because we are meeting today. I don't know what to do. I still miss him, but I don't want to be intimate. It's like addiction vs. dignity. Yesterday, I was trying to think of a way to tell him I know everything without telling him that I am the fake me. The only thing I came up with is to tell him that I ran into an old friend that I haven't seen for a few years. That we were talking about where we live and what we do and when she found out about my kid being in a sport school, she asked if by any chance there is an instructor
I don't think that plan would work. I, for one, would immediately know that the chances were TOO slim for it to have happened the way you describe, and that either you were the "fake you" or you had set him up with someone else being the "fake you". He's probably too smart to add the fake you to his friends. From what he's told her, he knows she could legitimately flirt with him online which would send off all kinds of alarm bells with you or his wife.
Why not just dump him? Fess up to being the fake you, and DON'T let him fool you by trying to assure you he knew it was you all along! He doesn't know it's you!! Don't let him persuade you otherwise! Don't even kiss him anymore, don't know how you managed that knowing what you know, just dump him.
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Lexi,
I know I should do as you advice. But I don't know if I can fess up to being the fake me. That will give him a reason to
There is a way to end it without admitting anything....
it means you take the bull by the horns, acknowledge he's a player and let him know that it isn't working out the way you want, and its time to move on.
That being said, is much easier than the actual doing....
Hi Lellibee,
It looks like I will not face the "bull" today. We are not meeting. I feel relieved and ashamed at the same time. I know I should be stronger and just dump him. I hate the fact that I am so week. I really thought that I was a lot stronger. This A and