AP wants to cross a line - help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
AP wants to cross a line - help!
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Thu, 01-29-2009 - 8:00pm
AP and I have been on again, off again for over 2 years.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 9:39pm

What?


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 10:14pm

What?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 10:45pm

"The cynic in me tells me I'm the only one available"


Really, gal...how good can you feel about his


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 11:18pm

You know, Clarity, your first post prompted me to go back and look at posts I made a year ago.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 01-29-2009 - 11:56pm

I'm glad you went back and read your old posts, gal.


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2008
Fri, 01-30-2009 - 2:53am

hi gal, well id say that if its freaking you out then something is not right. What i mean is if he wanted to cross that line then it should feel right for you both to do it without questions of doubt, trust and any other negative emotions. Maybe he wants to cross that line so that he can have more of that hold on you, maybe he knows that for you it will make you more attached as feelings may get deeper on your part. I dont know, but in my opinion you should follow your gut instinct, they say that gut instinct is built on your past experiences and knowledge so therefore if your doubting about crossing that line listen to what your gut is telling you.


take care hun


SS

"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


"be yourself, disguise not, for your a truly unique beautiful being"


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2007
Fri, 01-30-2009 - 1:37pm

I am going to repeat what I said before. This guy is bad news.

At this point, I think he is simply saying and doing what he thinks is going to win you over. Last week it was not crossing the lines that he made for himself, this week it is crossing them.

I would tread very very carefully.

~Shadowz
~Shadowz
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2008
Fri, 01-30-2009 - 5:49pm

I just avoided the situation today.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2008
Fri, 01-30-2009 - 9:33pm
i think you would have to think on whats in it for you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2009
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 12:56pm

I tried to find your previous postings to hear your story, but was unable to.

Very wise of you not to jump into anything physical, you are obviously giving it serious thought as you should.

Making the jump into a PA, in my opinion would definitely make you more attached. Adding the sex to an already EA, could be quite the emotional burden.

I agree with some of the other posts, that he has no one else now, so your the next convenient thing. Or that he is going back and forth in his mind on the his beliefs on whats constitutes an affair. Either way, it is selfish of him to say one think one week and then another the next week.

And about him calling you for the first time, that would probably be an attempt to give you attention that you want in order for you to sleep with him. I call it schmoozing. lol

You have to do what is absolutely best for you. I know its hard sometimes to see what exactly is "best for yourself," but really try to put yourself and want you want in front of everything else and what he says.

Good Luck & ((Hugs))

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