AP's moving in with his GF-how to deal?
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AP's moving in with his GF-how to deal?
| Fri, 10-03-2008 - 9:49pm |
So my AP and his GF have just decided to get an apartment with each other. they move in in a few weeks and i am sooo jealous and nervous that this will improve their relationship and he will forget about me. I keep getting upset with him about it and he keeps telling me to quit worrying. I mean i DO live with DH, but we've been married and living together for 4 years, so AP has known this from the beginning. I know i'm being silly, but i can't help it. We often get lots of time to talk through IM at night and this will put an end to that for sure. I'm just having a hard time coming to terms with this next step in their relationship and I feel like an idiot for feeling that way. Ughhh. How do i get over it?
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| Fri, 10-03-2008 - 11:16pm |
Recognize that this might spell the end. Face that squarely. Then, as time goes on, leave yourself open to deciding that YOU might want to end it; just check it out and see what happens. It will probably be more trouble for you, and that might tip the scales, or you might just decide to continue despite the extra complications. Either way, YOU have to be the one to decide. YOU have to be in charge of your own life. If you want to continue, accept the consequences, and if you decide to bail out, bail out with grace and a smile. Whatever happens, you MAKE it happen; don't let it happen to you.
| Sat, 10-04-2008 - 10:17pm |
My AP and GF moved in a week ago and things have already changed between us. I've only heard from him once and it was not about us. He told me things wouldn't change and he pledged his heart to me, but it didn't take him long to forget that part. I'm concentrating on me and getting out of my marriage. I refuse to let him see my weakness so I refuse to call, text or cry over him. I've decided to blow all my love for him in a balloon and let it go and I've also written a good bye letter. The letter helped because I had a place for my anger, after I finished it I shredded it. I'm still hurting, but I'm taking things one day at a time. It's hard to let go after 10 years, but I believe I will get over him and move on. Good luck and if you find a cure for a broken heart let me know.
