AP's W just found a love note in his car

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AP's W just found a love note in his car
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Sun, 02-07-2010 - 5:40pm

Oh Boy!

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Mon, 02-08-2010 - 9:54am

If I were her, I would ask my son about the note. This is something a teenage boy wouldn't mind owning up to - it wouldn't get him in trouble or anything - so he would have no reason to deny it being his. If he does deny it being his (and I see no reason he would say it was his if it wasn't) and I was her, I would then hold on to the suspicion. Maybe I wouldn't bring it up, because I'd have no "proof", but I would be very watchful. I've even heard of suspicious spouses following a H/W - one of my own work friends did that and caught her H that way, once she became suspicious. She actually took time off from work and followed him for several days, piling up the evidence. Once suspicion is aroused, there is SO MUCH a spouse can do - there are cheap software programs to break computer passwords, there are GPSs to secretly attach to the car, there are tiny voice activated tape recorders etc. etc.

The other possibility (and it's a big one) is that she doesn't really want to know, will never ask her son about it and will actually forget about it pronto.

Just be more wary for awhile, although when a spouse is determined to find out, there's little you can do about it.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 1:26pm
I agree with lexione and would add that stay cautious of a DDay !