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|Fri, 08-17-2012 - 5:42pm|
I have to wonder if I'm delusional.
My AP and I are planning to dissolve our current relationships so we can be together. We've been together 5 months and I have to say I've never in my life felt so perfectly matched and happy - at least when we're together. But an affair is far too stressful for me and I just don't feel right about it. But more than that, we both seem to feel that we belong together. It's not at all what I was looking for, but there's no fighting it anymore. I can afford to live without my husband and there shouldn't be any legal problems...
Has anyone left their H/W for an AP? Was it a mistake? Did you end up missing the ex? Was it harder than you imagined? Was the relationship, once it was legitimate, no longer what you thought?
I guess I sound like a naive fool. But it really, honestly feels like the right thing to do. That said, I feel like it's only right to question a decision of this magnitude.
I should also add that there's nothing terrible about my marriage. He hasn't met my needs in some years (sexual or emotional) but it's not as though life isn't comfortable and easy. He has never and would never be abusive or even unpleasant.
Is it kinder to leave if you can't remain faithful?