Are we happy in the A?
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Are we happy in the A?
| Wed, 06-23-2010 - 7:21pm |
Hi all
After reading so many posts the last day- it just struck me. Not many of us are really happy!
We feel confused, hurt, angry, unempowered, ignored, used, and sad.
I am one of the many people who seem to have 30% fantastic with 70% confusion/sadness/stress with my affair.
So why do it? Is it just that we are all addicts to the endorphins we get?
IGS
You are what you consistently do

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Hi findfreedom,
I am new here and posted an incredibly long intro to my A on the "do you use protection" post.
I always press reply before I remember to note the name of the person who said something that struck a note :)
The post about why we do this to ourselves was exactly what was behind my posting this thread in the first place.
I agree! I am causing myself pain, confusion, stress, hurt and obsession over someone I am 99.9% sure I will never be with. I dont know why I cant seem to:
a) accept we'll never be together but just lighten up and live in the moment- basically accept it for what it is- a casual and sexual friendship; or
b) realise that loving him causes more pain than happiness so just walk away.
I am floundering between these and ending up in unhappy no-man's land. I dont know what the answer is. But Im doing some soul searching and working on my marriage until the answer becomes clear to me :)
I read this post when it first started, and I have been contemplating it ever since.
After much soul searching I am feeling much better now. I am going to do as suggested- accept the moment, lower my expectations and lighten the F### up!
I dont want him as a life partner- he'd drive me nuts. I also dont want to be the one who ends it- Id always be wondering if I made the right decision.
Im trying to Let Go and Let God :)
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